Keys to Having a Successful Relationship

Today I want to continue my series on Successful Relationships. There are 2 main keys to having a successful relationship.  These keys will improve your relationship as well as your life. 

The 2 Main Keys to Having a Successful Relationship:

Main Key #1: Be Your Very Best

The first main key to having a successful relationship is to “be your very best,” and to treat your partner the way you would want to be treated.  This is not solely for their benefit, but it is equally for your benefit.

Why?

Because what you do to your partner you are doing to yourself – in the end, you’re in the game together.  And in order to “win,” you must play the game from this perspective.  It is impossible to wrong your partner in any way without wronging yourself!  If you cheat your partner, you are cheating yourself.  Think about this the next time you think you’re getting away with something.

Why is this true you might ask?  Well that’s a good question.

You are wronging yourself when you wrong them because you are lowering your own consciousness in the process of wronging them, which by default lowers the collective consciousness of the relationship.  (You’re taking an 8.5 relationship and making it a 7.4.) 

Your unwillingness to do the right thing has lowered the standard of the relationship, and now you must eat of the fruit of your own doing, because there is now a lower standard for the two of you to live up to.

If you sow corruption, you will reap corruption.  The books always balance!  This is why it would serve you well to think of your relationship like a team sport, remembering that you’re in it together!  The Apostle Paul said, “Take heed that ye not bite and devour one another, lest ye be consumed one of another.”

You can never take advantage of the relationship; if you tried, you would only be cheating yourself in the end.

A little contamination contaminates the whole. 

This is why you are to “do unto your neighbor as you would unto yourself.”  Not because it’s a good suggestion, but because on a “very real level,” what you are doing to your neighbor, you are actually doing to yourself.

The point I’m making is this:  never forget that you and your partner are on the same team.  You win and lose together.  No one has an advantage over the other; you can’t keep secrets from each other without it eventually costing you the game.  So play together, support each other, work on yourself as you work on the collective relationship, and in time you will have mastered “Main Key #1.”

Main Key #2 will be presented in the next article…

Thank you for reading, and be sure to pass this article along!

Roland N. Gilbert