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Your Daily Success, Motivational and Relationship Development Pit-Stop and Resource CenterAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03171804850170880769noreply@blogger.comBlogger209125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-54121508997462463842013-07-12T09:05:00.000-07:002013-07-12T09:58:32.469-07:00Be Decisive!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Indecision is a miserable state to be in and certainly is not a fruit of the simple life. The apostle James said the double-minded man is unstable in all his ways.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Never making a decision because you're afraid you'll make the wrong one will get you nowhere. How much time do you think we waste when we can't make up our minds?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We often labor over the choices before us when we just need to make a decision and let it stand. This may be a simple example, but think about it: When you stand in front of your closet in the morning looking at all your clothes, just choose something and put it on. Don't go back and forth until you make yourself late for work!</span><br />
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<span style="line-height: 24px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Chronic indecisiveness can be one of the toughest psychological demons to banish. Here are a few ways to help you pull the trigger when a big part of you would rather do anything but.</span></span><br />
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<strong style="border: 0px; line-height: 24px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Forget About Always Appearing Smart</span></strong><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 24px;">Plenty of talented people, even those who have made a killing, go to exhaustive lengths not to appear dumb. </span><span style="line-height: 24px;">Actually, the smarter you are, the more likely your indecision is born of this anxiety. A kid building a start-up can be wrong, fail, and feel no shame: “I’m a kid… what do you expect?” Not so for someone with an established reputation to protect. This fear of shame is pernicious, mainly because it’s useless. Let it go.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><strong style="border: 0px; line-height: 24px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Trust Your Gut (It’s Savvier Than You Think</strong><span style="line-height: 24px;">)</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 24px;">What we refer to as “our gut” is actually a wealth of knowledge infused with validated facts that you aren't in touch with until you reach a critical crossroad. Or as my grandfather use to say: </span><span style="line-height: 24px;">“If you don’t make the right decision, you can make the decision right.”</span></span><br />
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<strong style="border: 0px; line-height: 24px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Accept The Limits Of Analysis</span></strong><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 24px;">The road to hell, we’re told, is paved with good intentions! </span><span style="line-height: 24px;">Avoid paralysis by analysis. Act, examine your results, make adjustments, and move on.</span><span style="line-height: 24px;"> </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">William James said “When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.” He was dead-on! If you feel like a hung jury that’s still deadlocked, use a coin to break your mental logjam.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Remember: Indecision is all about avoiding: </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> 1. the choice between two negative alternatives, one of which has to be adopted, or </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2. the choice between two fairly equal courses of action. In both cases, the solution may well be heads or tails.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Let me encourage you to start making decisions without second-guessing yourself or worrying about the choices you make. Don't be double-minded or wishy-washy because doubting your decisions after you make them will steal the enjoyment from everything you do. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Make the best decisions you can and trust God with the results.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Think, Grow. Live!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Roland N. Gilbert</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />Roland works one-on-one – via phone and face-to-face – and with Master Mind Groups. Through Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">What IS an "Alpha Female"? </span><span style="background-color: white;">She is strong-willed, overly confident at times, difficult to please, loves extra hard with a dedication that often can't be matched. Her ambition and natural <span class="blsp-spelling-corrected" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">curiosity</span> for life & more specifically HER </span><span style="background-color: white;">life </span><span style="background-color: white;">is undying. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">She doesn't back down easily and is not always comfortable wearing a dress. They are a "wear the pants" type of girl which can serve them well in some areas and destroy them in others at the very same time. She is a Lion in every sense of the word. She moves with a slow stride and with a high head. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">She is a natural-born leader and sometimes have a difficult time putting herself before others. Her will is to change the world that she lives in even if it's in the smallest of ways. She owns a room almost instantly after walking into it because this is her nature. </span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">The Alpha-Female spirit makes it easy for her to be single yet can make it difficult for her to be in a relationship which really sucks. She is sarcastic and witty and her tact isn't always warmly welcomed by the opposite sex. Living in this generation of "sex vs love" a lot of potential or would-be potential suitors are left eating dust when they try to divide and conquer her lion-heart. She has the spirit of a man with the heart of the most gentle of women. She tolerates no arguments in Love because Love is the one thing in this world that she believes is just simple. </span></span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When she sees disturbance in Love she will generally just walk away and not look back. For her, love enters where there is calm not where there is chaos. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">i</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">t's safe to say that the Alpha-Female can have any man she wants and this is why more often than not out of 10 man there will be only 1 that barely strikes her interest. Her dominance can lure even the strongest of men, they will be intrigued with the challenge of dating her because she is never easily impressed no matter how kind the gesture. This type of female is different and a man will have to do very different things to get and to keep her attention. Men become easily obsessed with the different type of personalities that she possesses. </span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">An Alpha-Female will never stay under the thumb of an overly obsessed man. As soon as she can break free she will and her eye will be keener at avoiding this type of man in the future. The Alpha-Female will break hearts more than have her own heart broken and this is the curse that she is born with. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;">Here are 6 distinct signs you may be dealing with an Alpha Female and ways to "counteract" them:</span><br /><br /><span style="color: #783f04; font-size: small; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><b style="list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">1. She acts unimpressed by your romantic gestures</b></span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">An alpha female is used to men chasing her, so don't be surprised if cliche gifts like flowers and chocolate don't impress her. Remember this: Her expectations are higher than most women's, so you will have to be a little more original to get her attention.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">If she still acts unimpressed, do continue to make kind gestures, but don't go overboard. This type of woman is used to men going crazy for her, and you will stand out more if you can keep your cool.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">Clearly, she doesn't want to commit. The alpha woman always has several men on the go and likes to keep her options open.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /></span><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">The alpha female is a busy woman, or at least she is very talented at making you believe that. She likes to have you at her beck and call and wants you to work around her schedule.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /></span><blockquote class="tr_bq">
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b style="line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="color: #f6b26b;">How to counteract it:</span></b><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;"> Don't become the last-minute, just-in-case guy -- that won't earn you any respect in the long term. Make sure she realizes that you have your own commitments by not working entirely around her schedule. Do continue to pursue her if you think you have a shot, but </span>be casual when you call<span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">. And definitely don't call more than twice before she calls you back.</span></span></blockquote>
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="color: #783f04; font-size: small; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><b style="list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">4. She insists on paying her share of the bill</b></span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">If she always </span>insists on going Dutch<span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">, she might be pulling one of her fancy alpha tricks. Why? Because if you never treat her, she'll never owe you anything. Nada.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /></span><blockquote class="tr_bq">
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b style="line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="color: #f6b26b;">How to counteract it:</span></b><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;"> Continue to offer to pay on dates, but if she seems adamant about paying her share, don't insist. If you want to avoid the whole awkward bill-splitting moment, tell her you'll take her to your "secret spot" and bring along a picnic to surprise her.</span></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">She continuously asks you for favors and you are eager to do them for her. Sound familiar? The alpha female is used to having men pursue her and give in to her every whim. But as tempting as it might be to jump every time she tells you to, do not allow yourself to become her puppy dog.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /></span><blockquote class="tr_bq">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black; line-height: normal;">If she constantly talks down to you and makes rude or mocking remarks, you need to defend your honor and fight back with equally witty comments. You never know what the alpha female might say, so you always have to be "on" and ready for verbal combat.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; list-style: none; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /></span><blockquote class="tr_bq">
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<span style="color: black; line-height: normal;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Make one important distinction clear in your mind: An alpha female might not call you back very often and she may date other men, but she will show you strong, intermittent signs that she is interested to encourage you to continue pursuing her. Do not mix this up with a woman who is showing few or no signs that she's interested. In other words, know when to stop trying and walk away.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Now don't get me wrong, it's only natural to feel insecure once in a while, in fact everyone has insecurities. When we feels insecure all the time, even when conditions do not in any way prove that he or she is lacking in something, the person's lack of self-confidence becomes apparent. Most of the time, an insecure person will try to hide things about himself or herself. They will act and think in the way that he or she feels other people will respect them, even if this means lying about themselves, all because of the lack of self-esteem. An insecure person is always fighting with themselves, he or she tends to fall into self-blame when things do not work out.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">An insecure relationship is comprised of people who, as individuals, are already insecure before going into the partnership. A relationship becomes insecure when it is built on deception and jealousy, which are the qualities that insecure people often possess. For example, if a problem arises in the relationship, insecure people will blame each other. They will always act jealous of each other even if there is no reason to be envious. In an insecure relationship<b>, </b>the couple can also become deceptive and act jealous so that they can attract each other's attention. As already mentioned, insecurity stems from a lack of self-validation. Couples in an insecure relationship will demand this validation from each other, which becomes a problem because their demands can sometimes be absurd or impossible to fulfill.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sometimes, only one end of a relationship causes instability in a relationship. The woman, for instance, feels that the man does not think she is beautiful enough, even if the man tells her this is not true or gives her no reason to be insecure. Another example is when a man feels that he is not earning enough for the woman, or that he is not intelligent enough for a woman. In such relationships when only one person is the cause of insecurity, the other person is obligated to help his or her partner to overcome this feeling of low self-esteem. They must try to reassure their partner that he or she is satisfied with what the other is and can provide in the relationship.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">An insecure person can begin self-validation by stepping out of themselves and take an objective stance about their capabilities and qualities. An insecure person sometimes feels that their qualities are not enough to satisfy other people. Such a person must try to dig into their qualities and tell themselves that what they can do and offer can be improved, but should still be enough for people to accept them. An insecure person should also surround themselves with loved ones who can repeatedly assure them that they have value and do matter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For those involved in an insecure relationship, the first step towards becoming secure is to accept the fact that they are both becoming destructive to one another. A relationship should be something that brings out the best in people, something which is obviously lacking from an insecure relationship<b>. </b>If the couple decides to try to work things out, they have to:</span><ul style="text-align: left;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Most of the time, a couple who have security issues take a break from each other and try to fix themselves first before getting back together to save and rework the relationship.<br /><br />Relationships where only one person is having trouble at being insecure, the other partner can help him or her effectively by listening and by being open to whatever the other has to say. The more mature partner should be able to package their words carefully, because the other partner, being insecure, can be very sensitive to harsh, even though honest, words. For some couples, it is more effective if they even draw a schedule for their talks, so that the insecure person feels that it is also their responsibility to become a better person in order to save the relationship! (Accountability!)<br /><br /><b><span style="color: #783f04;">Other tips to get rid of insecurity</span></b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For some people, taking up certain activities can help immensely in learning to get rid of insecurities.</span></div>
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<li><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #e69138;"><b>enroll in classes that will improve their skills.</b></span></span></li>
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<li><span style="color: #e69138;"><b><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">or simply</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> try to engage in activities wherein they can be alone and calm.</span></b></span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The important thing to accomplish first is for an insecure person to become at peace with himself or herself, to look at his or her situation objectively, and to accept himself or herself completely for what he or she really is. The person must realize that validation comes from oneself and not from other people.<br /><br />Insecure people should also try to remind themselves everyday about their positive qualities and think of ways to enhance them. Most of the time, insecure people have forgotten that they do in fact have positive qualities, therefore it is extremely important that their loved ones help in affirming those things.<br /><br />Insecurity can be dangerous to a person and the people around them. However, as it is something that a person has created for themselves, getting rid of insecurity is extremely possible. A person simply needs to decide once and for all that he or she wants to pull themselves together and muster up the necessary courage and discipline to finally get rid of insecurity and pave the way towards a happy and satisfied relational life!</span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixhL6uy5aImDxg0_Qkbm0LrgL0GMJKF0ZN7tB57Q3Xpj9SKRH5z2ujWz_uAk6A_lCNfY-DLygsH62HO4eqmFIHcHk666yk5dfrSMsECMXDLkpqh6QG2exPuPL9h0bT9wAqBTwkJ7qtnu8i/s1600/small+business+owner.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="263" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEixhL6uy5aImDxg0_Qkbm0LrgL0GMJKF0ZN7tB57Q3Xpj9SKRH5z2ujWz_uAk6A_lCNfY-DLygsH62HO4eqmFIHcHk666yk5dfrSMsECMXDLkpqh6QG2exPuPL9h0bT9wAqBTwkJ7qtnu8i/s400/small+business+owner.jpg" width="400" /></a><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Most coaching clients who are in business for themselves come to coaching because they have goals they need help achieving. These goals can include increasing sales, income, or efficiency; becoming better at time management, or creating better work life balance. All GREAT goals, to be sure and worthy of their attention.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">But regardless of the tenacity, determination and ability of the client, if they try to accomplish their own personal "Mount Everest" without a firm footing at base camp, their particular journey on the road to the top will probably take longer and have more detours than they had originally imagined.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">Wonder why? In this world of instant and constant "connectedness" with Blackberries, cell phones and computers making being out of contact virtually impossible (pun intended), many small business owners are run ragged. They find themselves reacting to everyone else’s agenda, instead of setting their own.</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For example, there’s the young realtor I worked with recently who answers every call on her cell phone, regardless of where she is or what she is doing. Her more seasoned counterparts look on knowingly, wondering how long it will take her to learn the importance of screening her calls, putting her phone on vibrate, or better yet, giving out the office’s phone number instead of the her own.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">Many small business owners believe they are so pressed for time that they can’t take an hour to go to the doctor, for a growing cyst that might be cancerous. Others believe that their customer’s emergency — due to poor planning on their customer’s part — is now theirs as they run around trying to solve a problem they didn't create. And still others insist that their families are their priority while a closer examination using time as the measurement shows that this just isn't the case. (sound familiar?)</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For these small business owners, extreme self care is the first step in wrestling back control of their lives, before they start the climb up their personal Everest. Too busy reacting to others agendas instead of their own, demonstrating little or no ability to say no, and no tangible evidence of any respect for their own boundaries, they are usually exhausted before they even beginning trying to make the climb. Before starting such a journey, it helps to be healthy, centered, focused, energetic and surrounded by people and environments that will support them and not deter them.</span></div>
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<li><span style="color: #783f04;">Simplifying your life. Create an absolute yes list and put the rest of your activities on hold. This can be very difficult to do, for a variety of reasons. First, the people around you won’t like it when you draw back and stop doing what they currently depend on you to do. But it’s essential, because if you don’t, you’ll be too busy to practice self care.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #783f04;">Begin putting yourself first, instead of second, third, fourth, fifth and last. While some might see this as extreme, many people won’t practice self care to the level it should be practiced unless they are given permission to do so.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #783f04;">Once you become better at working your “no,” muscle, at naming, sticking to and enforcing personal boundaries, then and only then can you take the third step in self care, which is getting nourished. This can come from a variety of sources: friends, family, food, activities, exercise, and home and work environments.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">After business owners and entrepreneurs take these three steps, their chances of reaching their personal Everest increase dramatically, often with fewer detours and surprises. That’s not to say that there won’t be any surprises, because no one can control all the forces around us, be it weather, other climbers, or something else. If my past experience is any indicator, I know that as some of you read this, you’re thinking that you don’t have time to practice self care. Your goal is so important that it can’t wait.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">But ask any successful business owner or climber and they’ll confirm that it takes longer to reach a goal if you haven’t done everything that’s demanded at base camp. The smartest thing you can do is take the "meta-view" look at the big picture, by taking a step back. An added bonus of doing so is that your life will be more balanced, you’ll have more room for the things you really want in your life and you’ll feel a lot better when you do begin working on your goal.</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Once you begin looking after yourself, it will be hard to go back to what you now see was a crazy, out of control life. It really is all about the journey and not the destination, because what’s the point of reaching Everest if the trip, even up to base camp, leaves you exhausted and spent? And equally as important, if you do manage to get there, but feel worn out from it all, how much energy will you have for celebrating the momentous event? And as leaders in the human potential field tell us; stopping to celebrate and acknowledge our victory is imperative, as doing so psychologically spurs us on to even bigger and better things.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Business owners and entrepreneurs who practice self care by exercising, eating well and getting enough sleep find that they get more done than their counterparts who work longer hours, eat lunch off the sides of their desks and keep insane hours. Practicing these steps will increase the chances that you’re around to enjoy your business over the long haul.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sometimes after a woman has endured two or more failed relationships she may utter words to the effect, </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">"I don't know why I keep attracting the wrong men." </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">There is nothing wrong with attracting the wrong men because, honestly, you really don't have total control over ALL the types of men you attract. Some may beg to differ and that's fine. Men, most men, are attracted to women. For every woman there is a man or men who are attracted to her. However, as a woman, only </span><i style="line-height: 18px;"><b>you </b></i><span style="line-height: 18px;">have control over the men you choose. </span><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;">Experience</span><span style="line-height: 18px;"> has taught me that the vast </span><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;">majority</span><span style="line-height: 18px;"> of failed relationships were not with the men who were attracted to you; they were with the men you chose! Now, a silly counter-argument here might be, he was attracted to you and it was he who initiated the contact. True, but my initial assertion still stands — you have control. His initiating contact has nothing to do with you going ahead and being receptive to his advances. If you didn't want to you would not have reciprocated or accepted his advances.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Do you walk into a store and purchase an item? Don't you examine it first to make sure it's not torn, worn, dirty, or has some defect? You may even try it on to make sure it fits you depending on your purchase. My point is you don't go into the store grab the darn thing and go home with it only to discover that if you had taken the time to examine it you would have seen the defects or that it just didn't fit you properly. It is the same with men, not exactly store items, but it takes time (examine) to know them and you need to take that time to know them. And no, you should not 'try on' men like that. Will taking the time necessary to know a man prevent him for cheating on you, telling you lies, and turning out to be a dirt-bag? No, but there's a valid argument that by learning about him before jumping into bed it reduces your chances of picking the wrong one.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">A question you might ask is; how do I pick the right guy? </span><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;">Simp</span><span style="line-height: 18px;">ly, you have to do your homework ladies! </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #783f04; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>*How much "man" do I really need? <br />*Is there a "too much" threshold for me? <br />*Do I need a "Strong(er)" personality, because "my" personality is "strong, or should I find someone more "quieter"? </b></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Not knowing these types of answers before you start "looking" is like going to the grocery store <span style="background-color: transparent;">hungry...we either end up with a bunch of "crap" in our cart we didn't mean to buy or we find ourselves "snacking" while we are shopping!!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Finding "a" relationship is relatively easy; choosing the "correct" relationship takes knowing what your own personal "size" is, or what "fits" you BEFORE you start shopping!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 18px;">a smooth talking man with good looks, a nice body and a nice car is simply a smooth talking man with good looks, a nice body and a nice car until you get to know him. You only get to know someone after spending time learning about them. If his physical appearance and material possessions are your only focus then you are that person standing in the flower garden seeing the roses but not its thorns. You see what you want to see and hear what you want to hear. Everyone wants to create that wonderful unforgettable first impression and some are willing to do whatever it takes to create it. The superficial game is played by almost everyone. You have to be able to see beyond the superficial, look for depth and substance and demand more. Hold yourself responsible and accountable for finding more in him. Talk is cheap.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Picking the wrong man has a lot to do with what you are looking for versus what he has to offer, what you expect versus what you accept, and trusting men versus trusting your own judgment. However, your own judgment must be based on standards and expectations.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; line-height: 21px;">There has been much discussion among fans and critics of Facebook regarding what technically classifies as ‘cheating’ when it comes to the social network, so we’ll avoid going over that ground again here. Instead, let’s avoid definitions of cheating and look at the </span><em style="background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #333333; line-height: 21px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><b>signs</b> </em><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 21px;">that a spouse/loved one could well be cheating (however you define it) using Facebook as a tool (or weapon, depending on how you look at it). </span></span><br /><br /><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 21px;">It goes without saying that just because you recognize one or more of the following telltale signs in your partner, that </span></span><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 21px;">doesn't</span></span><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 21px;"> mean that they’re definitely cheating on you. There could be any number of explanations. However, if you do see any of the following signs, it might be worth having a conversation about your concerns and avoid seeing your relationship go down as another victim of Facebook cheating:</span></span></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">1.</span></span><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"> They will call you sweet names in your inbox but on your wall the will call you *dear* or your name.</span></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">4. </span><span style="color: #333333;">If you call them a sweet name on their wall he/she will not reply, the highest thing </span></span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.984848022460938px;">they</span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"> will do is to "Like" the comment.</span><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">5. </span><span style="color: #333333;">If you update a status, instead of them commenting on it he/she will only "Like" it but in your inbox they will be tell you about the ENTIRE status.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">6.</span><span style="color: #333333;"> On your wall posts they communicate with you as they </span></span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.984848022460938px;">would</span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"> a relative.</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><b><span style="color: #783f04;">HERE IS HOW TO DEAL WITH IT</span></b></span><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">1.</span><span style="color: #333333;"> If you are in a serious relationship, you should send them a relationship request so that everyone will see who is they are in love with.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">2.</span><span style="color: #333333;"> Instead of </span></span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.984848022460938px;">in-boxing</span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;">, try chatting with them on their wall more. Now some always have an excuse e.g:"my mom is on </span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.984848022460938px;">Facebook</span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"> and she is my friend so I don’t want her to see that I am seeing someone" or "l don't want people to know because l am protecting our relationship". There are a great deal of potential silly excuses, but my question is "till when are you gonna hide your relationship?" and "why are you hiding it since you are saying it’s a serious one?" If that means everyone is gonna know about you two then so be it. </span><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">3.</span><span style="color: #333333;"> Discuss how the time you spend together was, on the wall.</span></span><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">4. </span><span style="color: #333333;">Express how much you love each other on the wall (yes it sounds crazy to some of you but at times that’s what it will take to know where you stand with your Mr/Mrs Right/Right Now) Don't be fooled guys, YOU might be the one facing these. </span></span><br /><br /><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;">The only legitimate </span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.984848022460938px;">exception</span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"> to ALL of these would be if their Facebook page is a "business" </span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.984848022460938px;">page</span><span style="color: #333333;"><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"> as well. If that is NOT the case then:</span></span><br /><br /><span style="line-height: 17.999998092651367px;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">5.</span><span style="color: #333333;"> </span></span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.984848022460938px;">Last</span><span style="color: #333333; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;">, but not least, if you cannot do ANY of these then STOP lying to yourself that you are in a relationship with them! </span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03171804850170880769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-49765474598126682002012-09-18T11:55:00.000-07:002012-09-18T11:55:04.770-07:00Attracting the Man of Your Dreams!<br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Science has established that we are more than just physical beings. The physical world around us is composed of constant molecular movement that is influenced by our thoughts and actions. The study of quantum physics suggests that we are the creators of our own lives. This means that we can make positive adjustments in our life to create whatever we desire.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The process of attracting desired people into our lives involves believing in how much possibility the universe holds for us as individuals. Most people have limited beliefs and perceptions on what they truly deserve and are worthy of in a relationship from their childhood. Having these limited perceptions hamper your potential experiences in life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Once you make a commitment with yourself to really know what you want and desire from the man of your dreams, then you can ignite the source of attraction!!!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">By clearing your mind and writing out on paper your thoughts and desires on your "Mr. Right", you can open up the energy that will bring forward all your wishes.</span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 22px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This "process" focuses on defining the qualities in detail of what you want in a man and a long lasting relationship. This should be done during the two weeks leading up to the full moon. Not that I am a huge nature buff or believer in astrology, BUT, I do know that the moon's gravitational pull has a very unique impact on the planet, and specifically all water. Since our bodies our made up of approx 75% water it doesn't hurt to work WITH this force as opposed to against it! You will do it every night before bed for seven consecutive nights. It should be the last thing you do before falling asleep on each night. You will need seven pieces of paper, each marked at the top with one of these topics:</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Once you've relaxed in bed, you can write as much as possible on each topic. You should be emptying your mind completely with any thoughts or desires personal to you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">On the next six nights, you must read over your list, and keep refining, reviewing, adding or subtracting until you are 100% satisfied with it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Now keep the pages near you as you sleep each night, as words have tremendous energy and work on many levels. This exercise will be of great benefit as you're engaging your mind, body, spirit, intellect and emotions with the powerful words that you have written. As you sleep, new and vital energy will be shifted into your physical experience.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">In the morning of the eighth day, wrap your completed list in a piece of fabric and store it in an undisturbed place until the next full moon. You will use your list when you pray, when you fear, when you doubt, and when you want to give up hope. Your list is a reminder of the energy you have put out into the universe and the expectations of a return!</span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 22px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Another area to consider is Clearing the clutter in your home and office! "Clearing" can create long lasting relationships! When there is a mess, or stagnant energy blocked in your surroundings, it brings up a barrier between you and meeting someone special. As you know, the natural energy of a woman needs to be flowing gracefully without interruption to be its most effective!</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Having a pile of dirty clothes and old magazines stacked in a big pile in your bedroom can be harmful for your love life. If you're a collector or have lots of things that you can't get rid of, then proper organization is the key.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When clutter builds up in different areas of your home, it creates an imbalance in your life and energy. This prevents you from reaching your ideal life potential. Once you take action and clear your personal space, you will notice a difference in how you feel, and suddenly your mind will be clearer, and you can focus on attracting a healthy long lasting relationship.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why do people fail after achieving success? This is the biggest concern of every successful individual, the fear of losing the success.</span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Success is often measured by comparison to others. Excellence, on the other hand, is all about being the best we can be and maximizing our gifts, talents and abilities to perform at our highest potential.</span></span><span style="background-color: white; color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; line-height: normal; text-align: left;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;">We live in a world that loves to focus on success and loves to compare. We are all guilty of doing this. However, to be our best we must focus more on excellence and less on success. We must focus on being the best we can be and realise that our greatest competition is not someone else but ourselves. </span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;">Golfing legend Jack Nicklaus would simply focus on playing the best he could play against the course he was playing. While others were competing against Jack, he was competing against the course and himself. </span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;">The same can be said for Apple’s approach with the iPod, iPhone and iPad. When they created these products they didn’t focus on the competition. Instead they focused on creating the best product they could create. As a result, rather than measuring themselves against others they have become the measuring stick. </span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; text-align: left;">We have a choice as individuals, organizations and teams. We can focus on success and spend our life looking around to see how our competition is doing, or we can look straight ahead towards the vision of greatness we have for ourselves and our teams.</span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;">We can look at competition as the standard or as an indicator of our progress towards our own standards. We can chase success or we can embark on a quest for excellence and focus 100% of our energy to become our best... and let success find us. </span><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><br style="color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: black; line-height: normal; text-align: left;">Ironically, when our goal is excellence the outcome and by product is often success.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Good relationships don't just happen. I've heard many of my clients state that, "If I have to work at it, then it's not the right relationship." This is not a true statement, any more than it's true that you don't have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well, and stress reduction.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; line-height: 18px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />Fellas, I've discovered 8 choices you can make today that will not only improve your current relationship, but can turn a failing relationship into a successful one.<br /><br /><br /><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;">1. Improve your communication </span></b></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;"><b><br /></b></span>There is nothing more important in a relationship than communication. The more you communicate with your woman, the less likely the two of you will get into arguments because you both will be able to talk about your problems instead of holding them in. Remember, if you can’t communicate, you can’t even begin to support one another in a relationship. Conversation dispels confusion!!<br /><br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;"><b>2. Take responsibility for your own happiness </b></span></span><span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">Your first priority in a relationship - no matter what kind of a relationship you are in - is to be yourself.</span> <span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This means taking responsibility for your own feelings and needs instead of trying to get your partner to make you feel happy and secure. Learn to treat yourself with kindness, compassion and acceptance instead of self-judgment. Don't lose yourself just because you are in a relationship. </span>
<span style="color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">To do that, you'll need to love yourself by ensuring you have a strong sense of self-worth and esteem.</span> <span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br /><br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;"><b>3. Show her gratitude instead of complaining</b></span> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />Practice being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Constant complaining creates more stress in a relationship, while gratitude creates emotional, spiritual and physical health.<br /><br /><br /><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;">4. Laugh together </span></b><br /><br />Mutual laughter is an essential component of a strong and healthy relationship. Romance is much better if you can see humor in the little things and can have a laugh together. So, make a conscious effort to incorporate more humor and play into your daily interactions with your woman and be willing to make a fool of yourself sometimes just to put a smile on her face.<br /><br /><br /><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;">5. Set common goals together </span></b></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;"><b><br /></b></span>Look for anything that’s common between the two of you and talk about ways to work toward that aspiration together. Sit down with your partner and set new goals., i.e health, comfort, happiness and so on. Share what you want your life to be about, where you want to end up and what these things mean to you.<br /><br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;"><b>6. Give her some space </b></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;"><b><br /></b></span>When you love someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible; however, it’s equally important to have some space and to spend some time apart every once in a while. Being apart not only allows you some freedom, but it will also allow the two of you to miss each other and is an ideal way to keep your relationship interesting.<br /><br /><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #783f04;"><b>7. Be spontaneous </b></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />If you really want to give your relationship staying power, give a little extra effort in the bedroom. There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so use your imagination and come up with as many new positions as you desire. There is always something that you haven’t tried, so don't be afraid to mix things up in bed and awaken her sexuality.</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 21px;">I am always amazed when something that I hear or read has a really profound effect on me. It is like I am awakened to a new state of consciousness.</span><br />
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A number of years ago I read the quote by Anais Nin “And the day came [for the rose] when the risk it took to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”. She was talking to me.<span id="more-7314" style="background-color: transparent; border-width: 0px; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"></span> My inner voice had been telling me for a while that there was more to express and discover about myself. I had ignored it with all kinds of rationalizations. This quote jolted me into admitting that the time was now to make changes that made me feel good about myself. The first step was to start taking better care of my body by commiting to a consistent exercise program. It has been over ten years since I made the commitment to myself. I like that I am doing this for me.</div>
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Most of us do not know what we are capable of until we begin to stretch ourselves. Usually we limit ourselves with our beliefs. My limiting personal phrases have been: you are too old or you should have done that earlier or you have too much to do. I have learned that when I commit to something I also find the time to follow through.</div>
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When we begin to admit that there are areas in our life where we are "tight in the bud" we start seeing new possibilities and finding ways to begin to blossom. After I had success with the first step I began to add more steps because it felt good to expect more of myself. Being a big procrastinator I have had to push through my excuses not to do something.</div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 21px;">In addition to being painful, staying "tight in the bud" leads to boredom, tiredness and a lack of vibrancy. I think that it is especially important to recharge ones life in the years of </span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 21px;">forty</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 21px;">-five and above. By then much of life and thinking has settled into a predictable routine. It is also when our inner voice becomes louder and louder urging us to stretch ourselves and to set forth in new directions. Those who heed their inner voice and take the risk to bloom discover that their life has become vibrant.</span></span></div>
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Today I want to discuss the “relationship characteristics” you should look for when identifying the person you’re in a relationship with and eventually want to marry. I want to specifically talk about 15 characteristics that are signifying factors that you’re marrying the right person. </div>
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<strong><span style="color: maroon;">Look for these 15 characteristics “before” getting married:</span></strong></div>
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<span style="color: #783f04;"><strong>1. You’re Attracted to The Person Physically and Mentally</strong> </span><span style="color: #222222;">– I wouldn’t marry someone who I wasn’t attracted to in some significant way. Now, everyone’s not going to marry an “intelligent supermodel”, but finding a person who you’re attracted to physically and mentally will “serve you well” throughout your marriage.</span></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">2. Loyal and Trustworthy</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – A good partner possess incredible loyalty. </span></div>
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In addition, a good partner is also trustworthy. They earn your trust, and they keep your trust.</div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">3. They’re Different Yet the Same</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – It’s true that opposites attract, but it’s also true that birds of a feather flock together. </span></div>
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It’s okay that your partner is “spontaneous” while you’re “boring,” and it’s okay that you’re “disciplined,” while your partner remains a “free spirit.” These differences will bring balance to your relationship. </div>
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However, your core beliefs should remain the same. If you’re a devout Christian while your partner is a leader in the atheist movement, or if you and your partner have diametrically opposing beliefs on how a “family” should function, these foundational differences can destroy a marriage at the root.</div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">4. The Lines of Communication Are Open</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – Have you ever had a conversation with someone, and at the end of the conversation you knew nothing about them. While this may not be a problem if you’re talking to a stranger, this should not be the norm within a relationship.</span></div>
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It’s okay to be private with strangers, but if you can’t be intimate with anyone, then there’s probably a reason why? Intimacy means, "In-to-me-see," and it’s requisite to the success of any long-term relationship.</div>
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Conversations should lead to deeper understandings of the person you’re with. </div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">5. They’re Honest</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – This is an obvious one, I think. </span></div>
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It’s not enough to just have open communication; the communication must also be honest. If you catch someone constantly being dishonest, this is certainly a “red flag” that something is very wrong.</div>
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You should feel comfortable knowing that whatever your partner says is “true.” Unless you ask them, “Do the jeans make me look fat?” </div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">6. They Like Spending Time With You</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – A couple once told me that they “broke up” because they got tired of being together “all the time,” but they recently decided to get back together, and now they’re getting married. I thought, “…that’s an interesting combination of situations…”</span></div>
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…You need to find someone who likes spending time with you, and who you like spending time with. Spending quality time together is why you marry someone to begin with, if you don’t want to be around your partner constantly, you should probably remain “single.” Hold out for someone who you love spending time with, and who loves to spend time with you.</div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">7. They Prize You Above Everyone Else</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – Marry someone who values you above their friends. If you’re not valued above their friends, then their friends will have priority in your relationship…when a decision has to be made, you may be the last person asked.</span></div>
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<i><b><span style="color: #b45f06;">You always want to be where you’re celebrated, not tolerated.</span></b></i></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">8. Their Life is an Open Book, and You Like What You’re Reading</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – You should be able to see patterns in your partner’s life. </span></div>
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Has the person always been very disciplined, lazy, aggressive, or nice? What are the positive and negative habits and patterns in this person’s life? Can you live with these patterns and/or habits?</div>
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Has this person previously been involved in 20 relationships, if so, what’s the pattern, what’s changed since the last relationship? </div>
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Life happens in cycles, discover the life cycles of your partner; make sure you’re excited about those cycles.</div>
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<span style="color: #783f04;"><strong>9. You Have a Lot in Common</strong> </span><span style="color: #222222;">– You hang out in the same spots, you like the same things; you’re headed in the same direction. Why is this important? Because marriage is not the goal; it’s only the starting line of the race. You and your partner need to be headed in the same direction in this race.</span></div>
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People often get divorced and say, “we grew apart.” </div>
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It would be wise to discover where your partner is going before you marry them, and it would also be wise to know where you’re going. </div>
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If you don’t know where you’re going, and they don’t know where they’re going, we have a classic case of the blind leading the blind; both of you will end-up in a ditch.</div>
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Somebody said, “but I don’t know what the future holds”…the future holds what you plan for it to hold…what are your planning?</div>
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How many children are you planning, what kind of career are you planning, what kind of spiritual life are you planning, what are your life goals? Not that you’ll know everything in the present moment, but you should know a majority of the important things.</div>
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<span style="color: #783f04;"><strong>10. Your Friends Like Them</strong> </span><span style="color: #222222;">– In other words, the “unbiased” people in your life like the person. </span></div>
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If none of your friends like the person you’re marrying, you may want to re-think your decision. Your friends sometimes see things that you are unwilling to see.</div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">11. Their Motives are Pure</span><span style="color: #222222;"> </span></strong><span style="color: #222222;">– Look for a spouse who wants “you for you.” Someone with pure motives; they’re not trying to get something out of the deal. They’re not a vampire looking to suck your blood; they’re seeking to give. They’re not going to subtract from your life, they’re going to add to your life.</span></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">12. They Express How Much They Love You</span><span style="color: #222222;"> </span></strong><span style="color: #222222;">– Love is seen, love is action. If someone truly loves you, you will know it by their deeds, not just by their words. </span></div>
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Make sure your partner’s actions are indicative of someone who loves you. Their words should match their actions, and their actions should match their words.</div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">13. They Don’t Believe in Divorce</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – Simply put, if divorce is an option for your relationship, then you have a much greater chance of getting a divorce. As a couple you must make the conscious decision to work through your problems.</span></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #783f04;">14. They Give to You</span></strong><span style="color: #222222;"> – They buy you things, no matter how small, or if they don’t have any money…they make dinner for you, give you foot rubs, they cater to you.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #783f04;"><strong>15. They’re Not Selfish</strong> –</span><span style="color: #222222;"> They desire to see you fulfilled. A good partner is concerned about your dreams, wishes and goals. </span></div>
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They are willing to work to ensure you accomplish everything you desire to accomplish!</div>
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<span style="color: #222222;">In closing, I’ve written this article as a guide on identifying the signifying factors of an ideal partner, use the list as your gauge. However,</span><span style="color: #4c1130;"> <b>don’t bother looking for these qualities, if you don’t first exemplify these qualities yourself, you will only attract what you are.</b></span><span style="color: #222222;"> You must be the first partaker of what you desire to receive. </span></div>
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</div>Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-2538119183841240272012-07-02T12:14:00.000-07:002012-07-02T12:14:51.328-07:00Discover Your Life purpose in 20 Minutes!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I believe that we were all sent here for a reason and that we all have significance in the world. I genuinely feel that we are all blessed with unique gifts. The expression of our gifts contributes to a cause greater than ourselves.</span></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">First, a personal story</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Last year, I was running at full speed; chasing after my dream of money and ‘success’. However, I had forgotten <b>why</b> I was running. Luckily, I met Jim (not his real name). Jim had achieved all the financial goals I was reaching for. He had financial independence, several successful businesses, homes in multiple countries, and the luxury to afford the finest things money could buy. Through hard work, persistence and sheer action; he had made it! But, Jim was not happy. He did not have the free time to enjoy his wealth. He wanted a family. He wanted peace. He wanted to live his life… but he was not able to. He had too many responsibilities, too much to lose, and too many things to protect. He had spent years building his castle, and now that it is complete, he is spending his time keeping it from eroding.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Getting to know Jim was a life altering and eye opening experience. His words snapped me out of my state of ‘unconsciousness’. It became clear to me that, “I did not want to spend the next 10 years chasing after money, only to find that I’ll be back at the same place I am at today; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually”. My ‘chase’ came to a screeching halt, everything was put on hold, and I spent the next two months re-evaluating my life and purpose.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span id="more-138"></span>These questions were running through my mind:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What am I chasing after? Why am I chasing it? What is my purpose? Why was I put here?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">While reading “<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0887307280?ie=UTF8&tag=206425-07-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0887307280" rel="nofollow" style="color: #5f5959; padding: 1px;">E-Myth: Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work</a>“, Michael Gerber asks the readers to do a visualization exercise. Through his guidance, he instructs you to vividly picture the day of your funeral. What do you want your eulogy to consist of? What would your lifetime achievements be? What would matter the most at the end of your life? Is it what you are doing right NOW?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I started writing. It began by listing all the things that are most important to me. I wrote down all the things I wanted to do. I re-visited my personal mission statement. I decided that whatever venture I commit to must align with my personal mission, my values and my goals. For every new opportunity that comes along, I would ask myself how it aligns with my goals. Regardless of how much money I could acquire, if the venture did not align with where I wanted to be, then I would not pursue it. Here is my personal mission statement:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here are some of my values and goals:</span></div>
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<li style="background-position: 0px 3px; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What matters most is my connection with myself, being present and feeling blissful.</span></li>
<li style="background-position: 0px 3px; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What I value most is having meaningful relationships with people. Being able to connect with people on deep levels.</span></li>
<li style="background-position: 0px 3px; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I plan to be financially independent, and have control of my time and location. I plan to work only on projects and causes that I connect with. I plan to acquire my finances without violating my values, goals and personal mission.</span></li>
<li style="background-position: 0px 3px; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I plan to travel and live in different parts of the world. Experiencing different cultures, documenting them in photographs and sharing them with others.</span></li>
<li style="background-position: 0px 3px; display: block; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #4f4f4f;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">I will buy my mom a house wherever she wants, with a ravine in the backyard. That’s a dream of hers and I’d like to fulfill it.</span></span></span></li>
<li style="background-position: 0px 3px; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Having a family is important to me. I desire a deep, loving relationship with my spouse.</span></li>
<li style="background-position: 0px 3px; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">To live everyday fully as if it was my last.</span></li>
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<strong><span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">15 QUESTIONS TO DISCOVER YOUR LIFE PURPOSE</span></strong></h2>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The following are a list of questions that can assist you in discovering your purpose. They are meant as a guide to help you get into a frame of mind that will be conducive to defining your personal mission.</span></div>
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<li style="background-image: url(http://thinksimplenow.com/wp-content/themes/default/images/bullet-target.png); background-position: 0px 3px; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Find a place where you will not be interrupted. Turn off your cell phone.</span></li>
<li style="background-image: url(http://thinksimplenow.com/wp-content/themes/default/images/bullet-target.png); background-position: 0px 3px; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Write the answers to each question down. Write the first thing that pops into your head. Write without editing. Use point form. It’s important to <strong>write</strong> out your answers rather than just thinking about them.</span></li>
<li style="background-image: url(http://thinksimplenow.com/wp-content/themes/default/images/bullet-target.png); background-position: 0px 3px; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Write quickly. Give yourself less than 60 seconds a question. Preferably less than 30 seconds.</span></li>
<li style="background-image: url(http://thinksimplenow.com/wp-content/themes/default/images/bullet-target.png); background-position: 0px 3px; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat; color: #4f4f4f; display: block; line-height: 20px; margin: 4px 0px 10px 14px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 14px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Be honest. Nobody will read it. It’s important to write without editing.</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">15 Questions:</span></h3>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">1. What makes you smile? (Activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2. What are your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">3. What activities make you lose track of time?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">4. What makes you feel great about yourself?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">5. Who inspires you most? (Anyone you know or do not know. Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">6. What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">7. What do people typically ask you for help in?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 20px;">10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you've developed; what matters to you most? List them out.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">11. What are your deepest values?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #741b47; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><b>Select 3 to 6 and prioritize the words in order of importance to you.</b></span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people, beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)</span></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">YOUR PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT</span></strong></h2>
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<em><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">“Writing or reviewing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs”</span></em></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">A personal mission consists of 3 parts:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Steps to Creating Your Personal Mission Statement:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #b45f06;">1.</span><span style="color: #4f4f4f;"> </span><span style="color: #b45f06;">Do the exercise with the 15 questions above as quickly as you can.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2. List out actions words you connect with.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">a. Example: educate, accomplish, empower, encourage, improve, help, give, guide, inspire, integrate, master, motivate, nurture, organize, produce, promote, travel, spread, share, satisfy, understand, teach, write, etc.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">a. Example: People, creatures, organizations, causes, groups, environment, etc.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">4. Identify your end goal. How will the ‘<strong>who’</strong> from your above answer benefit from what you ‘<strong>do’</strong>?</span></div>
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<strong><span style="color: #741b47; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What is your purpose? What is your mission? We’d love to hear about your goals and aspirations. Please share with a comment!</span></strong></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #2b2722; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 18px;">Do you want that special lady in your life to feel special? Trust me when I tell you that<b> small things</b> mean a lot! Over time, it’s easy to forget the little things that contribute so much to a happy and fulfilling relationship.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><br />
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From time to time, it’s a good idea to look closely at the way we treat our partner and make sure that our actions accurately convey our true feelings. Here’s a list of 65 things that should never be overlooked in a relationship.</div>
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<em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><b>If you think I’m wrong, just ask her:</b></em></div>
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1. Regularly express to her that you need and value her.<br />
2. Do things that make you laugh together.<br />
3. Compliment her for her special qualities and be specific.<br />
4. Put your arms around her when she needs comfort.<br />
<span style="color: #111540; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">5. <b>Speak respectfully, don’t demean her or hurt her feelings.</b></span><br />
6. Give her time to be with her friends.<br />
7. Take regular walks hand-in-hand.<br />
8. Be enthusiastic over things that she’s excited about.<br />
9. Do something you think she wants done before she asks.<br />
<span style="color: #64010b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">10. <b>Discuss changes with her first before you make them</b>.</span><br />
11. Show interest in the relationship and the things she values.<br />
12. Allow her to teach you things without being defensive.<br />
13. Let go of the small stuff.<br />
14. Be a good listener and value what she says.<br />
<span style="color: #111540; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">15. <b>Get away from the routine to spend time together.</b></span><br />
16. Go shopping with her without watching the clock.<br />
17. Make her breakfast and clean up afterward.<br />
18. Set specific relationship goals to achieve together.<br />
19. Act like you are partners in all areas life.<br />
<span style="color: #64010b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">20. <b>Don’t take her for granted, always be polite.</b> </span><br />
21. Admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness.<br />
22. Defend her to others, especially to your family.<br />
23. Don’t belittle her intelligence.<br />
24. Scratch her back, rub her feet, and massage her neck.<br />
<span style="color: #111540; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">25. <b>Be especially helpful when she is not feeling well.</b></span><br />
26. When she asks how your day went, give her details.<br />
26. Never argue over money, it will damage your relationship.<br />
28. Don’t embarrass her in front of others.<br />
29. Make eye contact when the two of you are talking.<br />
<span style="color: #64010b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">30. <b>Show that you prefer her company over all others.</b></span><br />
31. Give her your full attention whenever possible.<br />
33. Never flirt with another woman.<br />
34. Brag about her and your relationship to others.<br />
<span style="color: #111540; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">35. <b>Surprise her with a card and flowers.</b></span><br />
36. Call her when you know you are going to be late.<br />
37. Give her your undivided attention when she’s talking.<br />
38. Never compare her unfavorably with others.<br />
39. Take care of yourself, It shows you care.<br />
<span style="color: #64010b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">40. <b>Be supportive. Help her to achieve her goals.</b></span><br />
41. Run errands without complaining.<br />
42. Sit close to her, even when you’re just watching TV.<br />
43. Include her when you make plans.<br />
44. Do things that make her feel cherished as a woman.<br />
<span style="color: #111540; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">45.<b> Build trust into your relationship.</b></span><b><br />46. </b>Surprise her with a 15+ second kiss.<br />
47. Stay in good of shape so she’s proud to be with you.<br />
48. Be kinder to her than you are to strangers.<br />
49. Make sure she feels valued above everyone else.<br />
<span style="color: #64010b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">50. <b>Continue to court her and date her.</b></span><br />
51. Show affection for her in front of friends.<br />
52. Hold her close when she is hurt or discouraged.<br />
53. Surprise her with an unexpected gift.<br />
54. Don’t forget to hold her hand in public.<br />
<span style="color: #111540; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">55. <b>Honor her and support her dignity.</b></span><br />
56. Don’t dishonor her by eyeballing other women.<br />
57. Fix dinner for her sometimes.<br />
58. Be sympathetic when she’s feeling down.<br />
59. Don’t ignore the small things that bother her.<br />
<span style="color: #64010b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">60.<b> Do things around the house that she wants done.</b></span><br />
61. Tell her and show her that you love her every day.<br />
62. When you’re away call or email often.<br />
63. Show her affection without sexual intentions.<br />
64. Show her affection with sexual intentions.<br />
<span style="color: #111540; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">65. <b>Let her see you reading and applying this list.</b></span></div>
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</div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03171804850170880769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-32828383684469679032012-06-11T12:48:00.000-07:002012-06-11T12:48:46.241-07:0067 Ways to Make Him Feel Like Superman!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; color: #2b2722; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 13px; line-height: 24px;">Men and women have many of the same needs, but they tend to be weighted differently. In relationships, we all want to feel loved and respected. However the way that is accomplished is somewhat gender specific. It’s the Mars, Venus syndrome.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;">When a man has the respect of his mate, it actually makes him want to become a better person. When it comes to relationships, feeling respected is a huge issue for most men. So, while some of the items on this list are very similar to the ones found in <em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">65 Ways to Make Her feel Special</em>, you will notice that the list leans more toward respect than toward love. <b><i>Realize that for a man, the two are basically synonymous.</i></b></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;">In relationships, most men are easily encouraged. Your approval is a powerful motivator and applying some of these simple steps will yield great results:</span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">1. Communicate with him respectfully.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">2. Let him know he’s important to you.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">3. Try to understand his reasons, even when you disagree.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">4. Ask for his help.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">5. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Let go of the small stuff.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">6. Tell him you love and respect him, and that you like him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">7. Give him some space for his hobbies</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">8. Show him that you respect him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">9. When you go out together don’t bring up problems.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #000066; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">10. Focus your attention on what he’s doing right.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">11. Show interest in what he feels is important in life.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">12. Be happy and positive when he comes home.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">13. Give him half an hour to unwind after work.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">14. Don’t allow any family member to treat him disrespectfully.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">15. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Defend him to any family member who tries to dishonor him.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">16. Compliment his efforts above his performance.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">17. Seek his advice when you face challenges.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">18. Set and work on goals together.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">19. Don’t over commit yourself, </span>leave some time for him<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #000066; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">20. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Be forgiving when he <b>unintentionally</b> offends you.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">21. Find ways to show him you need him. Guys need to be needed.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">22. Don’t fill his every spare moment with chores.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">23. Peel away your pride and admit your mistakes.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">24. Rub his neck and shoulders when he is stressed.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">25. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">If he wants to talk, listen and ask viewpoint questions.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">26. Express appreciation for his hard work.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">27. Tell him you are proud of him for the person he is.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">28. Give advice in a loving way; do not in a nag him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">29. Reserve some energy for him when he wants you sexually.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #000066; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">30. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Don’t expect him to spend all his time on "fu-fu" projects.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">31. Commend him for being a good man.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">32. Brag about him to other people even when he’s not there.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">33. Share your feelings with him but keep it abbreviated.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">34. Tell him 3 things you specifically appreciate about him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">35. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Honor him and show your respect in front of everyone.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">36. Get up with him, even when he gets up earlier than you want to.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">37. Be his helper in whatever ways he needs it.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">38. Accept that sometimes he just wants to be with you and not talk.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">39. When he’s in a bad mood don’t crowd him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #000066; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">40. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Help him accomplish his goals.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">41. Work to get rid of habits that annoy him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">42. Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">43. Thank him for things he’s done around the house.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">44. Don’t expect him to always notice everything you do.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">45. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Consult him before making important plans</span></span><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">46. Let him sleep in when he can.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">47. Don’t belittle his intelligence or be cynical with him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">48. Initiate sex periodically but be responsive more often.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">49. Get to the point in your discussions without endless details.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #000066; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">50.</span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"> Wink at him from across the room when you’re out together.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">51. Give him the benefit of the doubt when he misspeaks.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">52. Don’t quarrel over words.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">53. Be kind and courteous with him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">54. Don’t blame him every time things go wrong.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">55. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">When he blows it don’t say, “I told you so.”</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">56. Never argue over </span>money<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">, he already feels responsible.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">57. Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">58. Praise his good decisions and minimize the bad ones.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">59. Don’t expect him to read your mind, we’re not that smart.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #000066; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">60. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff.</span></span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">61. Work to keep yourself in shape in every way.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">62. When you’re angry don’t give him the silent treatment.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">63. Look your best for him and make him proud to be seen with you.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">64. Be his best cheer leader.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">65. </span><span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">Acknowledge his successes in areas of everyday life</span></span><span style="color: #500104; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">66. Patiently teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.</span></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, 'Helvetica Neue', Helvetica, sans-serif; line-height: 24px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722;">67. Thank him for just being himself.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">Did you know that according to Proverbs 18:14 "a man's spirit sustains him in sickness"? (Women don't try this at home because it only applies to men. In fact, the opposite is true for you. I'm sorry, ladies, but your spirit will fail you when you're ill.)</span><br style="background-color: white; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="background-color: white; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="background-color: white;">If the logic seems a bit strange to you, imagine my reaction when people tell me that by looking for a husband, a woman is going against God's plan for her life. After all, they cite, the Bible says in Proverbs 18:22 that "HE who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." So the opposite must be true. Right???</span><br style="background-color: white; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="background-color: white; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="background-color: white;">Not so fast. I think we're drawing conclusions where's there's none to be had. Reading through Proverbs, it seems as though it was written as an instruction manual for men. In this book, for the most part, there aren't instructions that address women. Even the infamous Proverbs 31 is offering tips to men on how to identify a good wife. However, I do think both genders can benefit from the wisdom of Proverbs. So, perhaps verse 18:22 isn't telling women what not to do, but it is instead a reminder to men, who often times under value the blessings and benefits of marriage (especially in this day and age), that they should think differently about making a commitment to a woman. The scripture is encouraging men -- and that doesn't mean it's discouraging women, just as the other verses in Proverbs that use a "he" pronoun or that refer to men aren't discouraging the women to act on all the wise sayings in the book.</span><br style="background-color: white; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">Most women who desire marriage are looking for it whether they acknowledge it or not. If you've ever signed up for ANY dating website, be it ChristianCafe, Eharmony or ChristianMingle you are pursuing love. If you ever said yes to a blind date set up by family or friends; if you ever attended a singles event in hopes of meeting someone; if you ever met a stranger and looked to see if their was a ring on his finger and when their wasn't batted your eyes, giggled or any of the other coy methods women use, you are actively looking for a husband. </span><br style="background-color: white; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="background-color: white; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="background-color: white;">You may not launch your own website or go on national television to share your story, but you are still on a search. And that's okay because according to scripture once you find your spouse you'll receive favor from the Lord! And as all married couples will tell you, marriage is hard work, so you're definitely going to need favor from God.</span>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="background-color: white;">Consider the Story of Ruth and Boaz. </span><span style="line-height: 24px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">Naomi was a shrewd older woman who had seen a lot of life, and put together a plan to prod Boaz into proposing to Ruth. She knew men, and she gave Ruth specific instructions on everything she had to do. </span><span style="text-align: -webkit-auto;"><span style="line-height: 24px;">Fortunately, Ruth had the good sense to LISTEN to the older woman. According to the scripture, </span></span><span style="line-height: 24px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">She perfumed herself, dressed in her best skirt n heels</span><span style="line-height: 24px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">, and waited until Boaz had eaten a good meal (As most of you women know a man with a full stomach is MUCH easier to handle). When Boaz finally lay down to sleep, Ruth approached him where he lay on the threshing floor - and if you know your biblical history, someone always slept there at night until the grain was removed, to guard against thieves. </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #b45f06; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>'When Boaz had eaten and drunk, and he was in a contented mood, he went to lie down at the end of the heap of grain. Then she came stealthily and uncovered his feet, and lay down.' </i></span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This action would seem strange unless you knew that in ancient times 'foot' was a euphemism for the male genital organ, as 'sandal' was for the female organ. Threshing floors at harvest time were often the scene of sexual encounters. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />Lying beside Boaz, Ruth suggested that he, as the <i>go-el</i> of Naomi’s family, should ‘cover her with his blanket’, a euphemism for marriage. She had the right to demand marriage of the <i>go-el </i>of her family, so that she could have the children that Israelite women longed for. Boaz happily agreed, but pointed out to her that there was another man who had that right, a closer relative even than himself. Boaz had to square matters with him before he could marry Ruth. He seems to have been at pains to do everything correctly, so that there could be no question about the legality of the marriage.<br /><b><br /></b></span></div>
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<span style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="border-width: 0px; margin: 0px; outline-width: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance.</span></span></span></div>
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</div>Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-26815026562677235612012-05-31T10:17:00.000-07:002012-05-31T10:17:35.510-07:00How to Recognize and Increase Your Opportunities<br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Do you feel like the number of opportunities available to you is starting to dwindle? Does it seem like there are fewer and fewer chances for personal and financial growth because things are pushing in all around you?</span></div>
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<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Is that reality or just your perception?</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if I said that each of us is constantly surrounded by limitless opportunities, but that they often go unrecognized. Do you think that could be true in your case?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What kind of opportunities are you looking for? Do you want to expand your income, find a partner, start a new career, grow your consciousness, or establish some meaningful business or personal contacts? Ask yourself this:</span></div>
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<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">What does opportunity look like?</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That is an important question to ask, don’t you think? No matter what kinds of opportunities you are looking for, if you can’t <b>identify</b> them, then they are very likely to sneak past you unnoticed. When seeking opportunity, most people’s search criteria is so narrow in focus that it can essentially blind them to what is right in front of their face. It’s the old “can’t see the forest for the trees” scenario.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">At other times, the opportunity itself is hidden from view but there are visible clues that we can follow. In cases like this, we need to recognize and follow the clues that will lead us to the opportunity we are seeking. When looking for gold, miners don’t expect to find it just laying around on the surface of the ground. So how do they know where to look? They search for clues such as favorable rock formations, or deposits of certain metallic ores. When they find the right clues, then they take a closer look.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sometimes opportunity is disguised as something else. There’s an old saying that goes like this: “The reason most people fail to recognize opportunity is because it often comes disguised as hard work.”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Whatever the case, if we broaden our parameters a bit, and use a little imagination, we can train ourselves to see opportunities that were previously hidden from our view. Let’s consider where opportunity is most likely to be found.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">People are your greatest source of opportunity!</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Regardless of what kind of opportunity you are looking for, there is someone, somewhere, who is in a position to help you. If you have a service to offer, there is someone who needs that service. If you have a product to sell, or an order to fill, It doesn’t matter what that product is or what you need to fill your order, somewhere out there are buyers and sellers that can help you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The kind of opportunity you are seeking really makes no difference. Whether it is in the realm of products, services, guidance, assistance, or knowledge, your quest will end when you find the right person or group of people. People represent your greatest source of opportunities. Let’s take this concept and drill down a little bit more to make sure we understand how to use this resource.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">What kind of questions are you asking?</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Obviously, finding the right opportunity requires that we ask the right questions. Asking the right questions will ultimately lead us to the right people. This puts an entirely different spin on our search. Now, instead of looking for opportunity directly, we are looking for people. What kind of people? Well, it all depends on the kind of opportunity we are seeking.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you are looking for employment, then start by looking for people with businesses that are still thriving, even in this economy. Don’t start out looking for the exact position that you would like to have, that’s too specific. If your search is too narrow, you may miss out on an opportunity for an even better position than you anticipated. So find the people whose businesses are thriving and look for a way that you can add value to their business. Be creative, and when you come up with a presentable idea, run it by them. Even if they don’t buy into your idea, they are likely to be impressed enough to offer you something else.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Your goal should be to become a viable asset to your employer by adding value to their business. The more valuable you are to them, the more opportunities will open up for you.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">See yourself as a valuable asset</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Your self-image will make a huge difference in the type of opportunities you attract to yourself. If you see yourself as a valuable asset, and you present yourself as such, others will see you that way as well. You never ever want to come across as needy or desperate. This is true whether you are looking for a job, a mate, or a business partner. Self-confidence encourages people to have confidence in you. Opportunities come to those who instill confidence.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It can be difficult to come across with self-confidence when you are in urgent need of the right opportunity. For someone who has been out of work for a while, with bills piling up, they may feel desperate. It’s extremely difficult to project the right image while harboring feelings of desperation. This is one of those situations where learning some specific life skills can help to overcome the mentality of scarcity.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Focus on creating opportunity for others</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Some of your best opportunities will be born from your desire to create opportunity for others. This has been the driving force of many successful web based businesses. Let’s say that you have written a content rich ebook of incredible value, and you want to share it with as many people as possible. In order to accomplish that, you decide to price it well below the value of its contents. So you have created an opportunity for others to benefit from your hard work very inexpensively. Could you take it a step further?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if you offered your customers an opportunity to share your book with their friends and earn a 70% commission in the process? Now you have created value and opportunity on two different levels. There is no way to foresee what kind of future opportunities will grow from an arrangement like this. One thing I do know is that this very strategy has launched thousands of successful internet businesses. Creating opportunity attracts even greater opportunities.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Always put people ahead of business</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It is natural to want to help those that you like and respect. Work at building relationships with people and opportunities will follow. This is the principle behind the success of major social sites like twitter and facebook. It’s about relationships, and relationships are a give-and-take arrangement. Many business opportunities have come from these social sites, but the relationship came first.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The same principles apply to almost every aspect of life. If you are looking for opportunities, focus on establishing relationships and creating value first. Stay open to mutual opportunities and don’t be afraid to be generous. When you look for ways to help others you become a magnet for increased personal opportunities.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So look around, opportunity is knocking – are you willing to open the door and let it in?</span></div>
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<span style="color: #460005; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Did you discover any hidden opportunities?<br style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" />Are there untapped resources that came to mind?</span></strong></em></span></div>
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<em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px;">Think. Grow. Live!</span><br style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px; text-align: left;" /><br style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px; text-align: left;" /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px; text-align: left;">Roland N. Gilbert</span></span></em></div>
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<em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="border-width: 0px; margin: 0px; outline-width: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance.</span></span></em></div>
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<br />Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-8851782446165686072012-05-22T12:15:00.000-07:002012-05-22T12:15:32.283-07:00The Role of Focus, Filters & Priorities in Our Relationships!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">How does a relationship that started out like a whirlwind romance end up being a source of confusion and unhappiness? Is there anything you can do to safeguard that special bond that initially attracted you to one another? What is the quickest way to turn things around and rekindle those special feelings if they seem to be disappearing?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">These are just a few of the questions commonly asked by concerned couples feeling the squeeze of increasing stress on their relationship. Have you ever struggled with these or similar issues?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Let’s look at a few reasons why a good relationship can become challenging and what you can do to prevent, or even reverse, this trend. Considering three specific aspects of our personal perception can help us see the bigger picture and make any adjustments that might seem appropriate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">How we view our world and the people in it has everything to do with our perception. Regardless of how objective we might think we are, our personal version of reality is heavily influenced by what we focus on, how we filter that information, and the way we set our priorities.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Not only will the settings of these three factors determine our perception, they will also determine how we respond to the world around us. This is especially true in the way we interact in our closest relationships. Those closest to us are always the ones who see our true colors.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">By making adjustments in our <b>focus</b>, <b>filters</b> and <b>priorities</b> we can literally transform what we bring into a relationship and what we receive from it. So, let’s work with these three components of perception and see how we can tweak them for a richer and more meaningful relationship experience.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">1. Adjusting your focus.</strong></span> Remember what you used to focus on when your relationship was new? Remember how much joy that brought you? That’s because focus is the most powerful way to adjust our impression of reality. When your relationship was new you made it a habit to focus on all of your partner’s amazing qualities. No matter what else was going on in your life, being together was so wonderful that you always looked forward to it with eager anticipation and you never allowed the cares of life to dampen your time together.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">How about now? Are you still focused on those amazing qualities or has your attention drifted to their faults and shortcomings? When you are together do they still get your undivided attention and admiration or has the stress of life overshadowed the way the two of you interact? See the difference focus makes? So, what can you do about it?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Solution.</strong></span> Make a conscious and consistent effort to recapture the same kind of focus that got your relationship rolling in the first place. Turn your attention to those amazing qualities and away from anything that doesn’t feed your sense of joy and appreciation. If you focus on the positive your perception of, and your response to your partner will shift. In turn, they will respond to you accordingly. Circular Relationships are based on cause and effect. If you change the cause the effect will change also.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">2. Adjusting your filters.</strong></span> When you first got to know each other, did you find your partners little "idiosyncrasies" irritating or entertaining? Did you see their unique personality traits as refreshing or strange and in desperate need of refinement? Your view of your partner has always been up to you. You are the one who chooses which filters to look through.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you are looking through a critical or judgmental filter you will see things that you don’t appreciate. If you are looking through a happy, grateful filter you will readily notice more and more reasons to find delight in your partner’s unique attributes. Your attitude is your filter and a positive attitude based on love and appreciation can filter out many of the little annoyances that might rob you of the joy you both deserve.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Solution.</strong></span> Stick with the filters that you used when your relationship was the most positive part of your life. When you combine a positive focus with a positive attitude it starts a chain reaction that can bring a great sense of joy and satisfaction into your relationship. No matter what happens in other areas of your life, always do your best to greet your mate with a loving, positive, appreciative attitude.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">3. Adjusting your priorities.</strong></span> When your relationship was at the "bomb.com" stage, where was it positioned on your list of priorities? Where is it now? Is it still at the top of the list or have other things been getting top billing lately? When I talk about priorities I am not referring to how your time is divided. I am talking about what is most important to you. Most of us spend more time working than we do interacting with our partner, but which one owns your heart? That’s what defines your priorities.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If our relationship is our top priority we will make time for it and won’t allow the other concerns of life to squeeze the life out of it. And we won’t do this solely out of a sense of responsibility; we’ll do it because we want to. We’ll do it because our relationship means more to us than anything else and because that is where our heart is.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><strong style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Solution.</strong></span> Take the time to evaluate your true priorities in life and see if your lifestyle supports your relationships position at the top. Don’t make excuses or deceive yourself while evaluating your situation because that will prove costly. If you are not sure, ask your partner, but don’t get all upset if you don’t like their answer. Next, make any needed adjustments to establish your relationship as your number one priority. When both partners know that the relationship comes first it does amazing things to the way they interact with each other. Isn’t that what you both want?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Use these three keys to unlock and maintain the joy and freshness that comes from a truly meaningful and satisfying relationship. Obviously, you can’t control how your partner acts, but you can give them every reason to respond to your efforts in a way that empowers you both and brings a lot of fresh, new joy into your world.</span></div>
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<strong style="color: black; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #91532b;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 24px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">How do you keep the "freshness" alive in your relationships?</span></span></span></em></strong></div>
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<strong style="color: black; line-height: normal; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><em style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #91532b;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 24px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What keys would you add to these three?</span></span></span></em></strong></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px;"><b>Think. Grow. Live!</b></span><br style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px; text-align: left;" /><br style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px; text-align: left;" /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #2b2722; line-height: 24px; text-align: left;">Roland N. Gilbert</span></span></div>
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<span style="border-width: 0px; margin: 0px; outline-width: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance.</span></span></div>
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</div>Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-87896824353062513292012-05-18T11:21:00.000-07:002012-05-18T11:21:09.819-07:00Success - Is it Worth the Risk?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Risk-taking is scary for most of us because there is always the potential for loss. We’ve been taught to be careful and avoid taking any unnecessary risks. Instead, we are cautioned to play it safe and just take baby steps toward our dreams.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">While this approach does tend to feel safer there are also some serious downsides. For one, you can’t build momentum by holding yourself back. In fact, the longer we hold back, the harder it is to keep moving forward. Without forward momentum, inertia kicks in until our progress comes to a screeching halt.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Have you ever noticed that most successful people have one thing in common? Nine times out of ten there was some degree of risk involved in their success. In one way or another, those “successful people” usually feel like they needed to take a chance in order to succeed.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Believe it or not, risk is not such a terrible thing if you view it from the right perspective. Most people look at it from the perspective of what they stand to lose if it doesn’t work out. But we also need to ask “what do I stand to gain if it DOES work out?”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here’s a simple process to determine which risks might be worth taking. Use the following six criteria to analyze the situation BEFORE you jump in and make a final decision.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">1)<span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> What do you stand to gain?</strong></span> With any risk, you’ll want to first look at the potential benefits. Make a list of what you stand to gain from moving forward and include as many details as possible. Consider every possible positive benefit you stand to receive. Make sure to consider the financial, emotional and physical upside. What’s the best case scenario?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2)<span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> What are the possible negative consequences?</strong></span> Along with the positive benefits, there are always a few possible negative consequences. That’s why they call it RISK. Make another list of these, again thinking about all the possible things that could go wrong, and what would happen if they did. Could you handle it? What’s the worst case scenario?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">3)<span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> Balance, balance, balance.</strong></span> Now, compare the two lists and see which one has the strongest likelihood of coming to fruition. Would the gains be worth the risk? Would you be able to handle the negative consequences if they did happen? Are there any options for a middle ground decision that would minimize the risk without derailing the momentum? Should you break it into phases so you have an exit strategy, or should you just go for it with all you’ve got?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">4)<span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> How realistic are your fears?</strong></span> Take another look at your list of negative consequences and ask yourself how likely they are to happen. The majority of the time you’ll probably find that your fears don’t have much real substance – they’re just fears. Evaluate each possibility carefully and determine whether it’s a real threat or an expression of some unrelated fear.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">5)<span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> Go with your gut.</strong></span> After carefully weighing the pros and cons, you should have a solid sense of whether you should take the risk now, or lay a little more groundwork first. There is no shame in deciding to hold back if you feel you can’t handle the negative consequences right now! Remember, you can always re-evaluate the same risk at a later time to see if conditions are more favorable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">6)<span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> Now ask yourself – Why?</strong></span> What is your motive for considering this course of action? Is it in harmony with what you know to be right, or is it possible that greed or selfishness might be influencing you? Understanding your own motives will help you get very clear about what you should do. Always move toward the greater good.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Get yourself primed for action</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">By getting into the habit of evaluating risks in this way, you will empower yourself with the confidence to push through hesitation and move steadily toward a successful outcome. In the long run, confidence and determination will be a huge factor. If you are going to take a risk, getting your mindset right first will maximize your chances for success. That brings us to…</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">7) <span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Don’t hold anything back!</strong></span> If you decide to go for it, give it your best shot. The first six points were the pre-action phase. Once you launch into action avoid the temptation to second guess your decision. Doing so will only undermine your progress. You’re already in the game, so now it’s time to focus on making things happen.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">How are you at assessing risk?<br style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />Do you think that risk and success go together?</span></strong></em></span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #444444;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone, Skype and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. 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</div>Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-47087836621547846312012-05-15T11:45:00.000-07:002012-05-15T11:50:57.208-07:00Living by the Law of Consequences!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What if I told you that there is one fundamental law with the power to completely change your reality. Would you be interested? How would you respond if I told you that this fundamental law is easy to understand and implement, regardless of your current circumstances.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you could radically simplify the whole concept of creating a better reality by making one simple change in the way you run your life, would you be willing to give it a try? Before you say yes, I’d like to tell you a little story.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Don’t expect something for nothing</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There was once a poor exchange student who rented a room above a fancy restaurant. Every night as he ate a plain bowl of rice for dinner, he would sit at the top of the stairs and enjoy the wonderful smells coming up from the restaurant below. As he ate, he would savor the aroma and imagine that he was dinning on the delicious delicacies being served down in the restaurant.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When the restaurant owner found out what the exchange student was doing, he took him to court. He wanted the student to pay him for the enjoyment he had derived from the food smells coming from his place of business.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The judge listened intently and then asked the student if he had any change in his pocket. When the young man said yes, the judge asked him to shake his pocket so he could hear the coins rattle. Then the wise judge told the restaurant owner: “<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">The sound of money is sufficient payment for the smell of food</em>.”</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">What’s the point?</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Millions of people have bought into the idea that they can sit around visualizing a better life and that somehow it will manifest. When it doesn’t happen they go searching for the missing secret or a new technique that will make it happen. I am not saying that visualizing isn’t powerful because it is, but visualizing alone is not going to change your life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You would never expect the smell of food to satisfy your hunger or the sound of money to pay your bills. Visualizing is a great way to get very clear about where you need to focus your attention, but more is needed to produce a meaningful outcome.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">The law of consequences is about reality</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Like all fundamentals, the law of consequences is based on truth. That means that putting it into practice requires a realistic approach and a willingness to accept personal responsibility for your life. It also means letting go of the fantasy based idea that somehow your world is going to be magically transformed without any effort on your part.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I realize that pie in the sky, fairytale promises of a better life without any effort are popular, but I prefer to deal in reality. How about you? Are you ready to fully embrace a realistic approach to creating a better reality on every level?</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">What is cause and effect, and the law of consequences?</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Simply put, we are talking about cause and effect. The law of consequences states that every result or outcome (effect) happens for a reason (cause). Everything we do produces some kind of outcome and by carefully considering the possible consequences of any action, word, thought, or decision in advance, we can be much more successful at producing the outcome we desire.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Wisdom consists of the anticipation<br style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />of consequences. ~Norman Cousins</span></span></strong></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Recognition of the law of consequences is fundamental to understanding how we influence our own reality. It can be incredibly empowering to know that everything we do (cause) leads to an outcome (effect), but to benefit from that knowledge we must be willing to accept full responsibility for our behavior.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Let logic be your guide</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For some reason there are those who want to complicate things when you start talking about cause and effect, but I’m not one of them. At its most basic level we are simply talking about action and reaction. If we have the foresight to consider how our words and actions will play out, we can make better choices that will have a positive influence on the quality of our life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Shallow men believe in luck. Strong men believe</span></strong><br style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" /><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">in cause and effect. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson</span></strong></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here’s a little exercise that can vastly improve your reality on every level. Before you make a decision, think it through to its logical conclusion. Ask yourself: If I do this is it likely to produce desirable consequences, or is it something I will regret down the road? If you get in the habit of walking your decisions through this simple process before you commit to them, it will change your life.</span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #444444;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone, Skype and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. 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</div>Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-43854597941551308212012-05-03T11:21:00.000-07:002012-05-03T11:21:43.320-07:00Your Biggest Career Decision is Who You Marry!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<br /><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><br />Sheryl Sandberg, the woman who runs Facebook, <a href="http://articles.businessinsider.com/2011-12-01/strategy/30462131_1_powerful-women-sheryl-sandberg-facebook-coo">has said</a> that the most important career choice you’ll make is who you marry.</span><div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I have to agree with this statement. Here’s why:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you marry someone with a big career and you want to have a big career you have to find that rare mate who can treat you as an equal, even when your career needs to come first. These are very tough marriages to hold together because there is a constant, never-ending re-balancing of priorities and power between spouses.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you marry a breadwinner who expects their career to come first, then things will probably only work if you can support that. Even if you have a career of your own. This is the easiest marriage to hold together (if any marriage can be called easy) as long as the man is the breadwinner.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you marry someone who is terrible at earning money, or someone who is good at earning money but doesn’t want to, then you will have to take responsibility for earning the money.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">In each of these cases, your career decisions are largely determined by who you choose as your mate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If the idea of being in a long-term, committed relationship makes you sick, you should stop reading now. If you still hold out hope for marriage, here are my four favorite ways to get a spouse:</span><div style="background-color: white; color: #3f3f41; line-height: 21px; text-align: -webkit-auto;">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #3f3f41;">1. </span><span style="color: #b45f06;">Network</span><span style="color: #3f3f41;">.</span></strong><br /><span style="color: #3f3f41;">Getting a spouse is the first big test of your networking abilities. If you’re really well networked, </span><span style="color: #3f3f41;">then you can look around at who you know and who your friends know and pick someone.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you go the networking route, the same rules of networking for a getting a job apply to networking to get a spouse. Which means that the most valuable people in your network are people who you are not that close to because those people will likely know a bunch of people who you don’t already know.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #3f3f41;">2. </span><span style="color: #b45f06;">Try online dating sites.</span></strong><br /><span style="color: #3f3f41;">That was before dating sites. Today dating sites make things easier, for the lucky </span><a href="http://news.discovery.com/tech/does-online-dating-work.html" style="color: #d05d00; text-decoration: none;" target="_blank" title="http://news.discovery.com/tech/does-online-dating-work.html">23% of people</a> <span style="color: #3f3f41;">who can get dating sites to pan out.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Most dating sites specialize. ScientificMatch matches you based on your DNA. Salon is for intellectuals. OK Cupid is more Jewish than JDate.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Feeling frustrated and ripped off? Luvia specializes in people who want a better payment fee structure for online dating. Really. The founder of Luvia, Ravi, says: “There’s no monthly fee or any premium services fee. And registration is totally free. Luvia.com is very economical because we charge based on usage.”</span></div>
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<strong><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #3f3f41;">3.</span><span style="color: #b45f06;"> Go to therapy</span><span style="color: #3f3f41;">.</span></span></strong></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #3f3f41;">You know, those fairy tales about having three wishes aren’t really about the wishes. They’re about learning what’s important to you. </span><span style="color: #3f3f41;">The fairy tales are about the power of self-knowledge, and how hard it is to come by.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Which is really what dating is all about. You have to give stuff up to get married. Picking a spouse is a lot like picking a location—it’s not about what you get, it’s about what you give up. You have to be really clear on what you are not willing to give up—because you’ll probably be giving up everything else. You have to assume you are. And it’s hard.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Most of adult life is about admitting what you will not be able to have or be able to do. Marriage is no exception. If you can’t accept that, going to therapy can help—you get stuck otherwise. Which wouldn’t be so bad if you don’t want kids. But stalled dating under the tick-tock of a biological clock is no good for anyone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><strong><span style="color: #3f3f41;">4. </span><span style="color: #b45f06;">Compromise your career.</span></strong><br /><span style="color: #3f3f41;">It’s true that who you marry is your most important career decision. But it’s also your most important financial decision, your most important parenting decision, and on and on. No one ever says that they knew what they were getting when they picked their spouse. Twenty years down the line, everyone is surprised.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So the choice is impossible to perfect because the information you have about your options is so poor. People change, and people don’t know who they are so they can’t disclose who they are. And life before kids does not resemble life with kids, so how do you even know how the person will react when the kids come?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It’s prideful to say this does not apply to you.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">But of all the things that spouses affect, and with all the things you have to compromise in order to hold a marriage together, a career seems like a small price to pay.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">People who are married are happier than people who are not! And I think it’s mostly that people are happier when they put the requirements of being in a committed relationship ahead of the other aspects of their life. And a career would be the first thing I’d tell you to give up. You can get a lot more from loving and being loved.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #741b47; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What are you willing to compromise to have a great relationship?</span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #444444;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone, Skype and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. 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</div>Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-1795217919779884932012-04-26T13:57:00.000-07:002012-04-26T13:57:48.839-07:00How To Be More Likable in 10 Easy Steps!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When we get all caught up in the daily grind it’s easy to overlook some basics regarding our personal conduct. There are certain types of favorable behavior that are not as common as they once were and I think this is a good time to consider a few of them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We all know the difference between good manners and rudeness, but sometimes we can benefit from a little reminder. Hopefully, this list will reiterate some of the simple things that each of us can do to make the world a more pleasant place.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">1.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Say please and thank you</span></strong>.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> </strong>Simple, yet so often overlooked. When you want something, you say please. When someone does something nice for you, you say thank you. This may sound like a minor thing, but when you let people know that you appreciate what they do for you, it helps establish a friendly and respectful rapport. And guess what, they will see you as likable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Be courteous</span></strong>. Usually, this is just a matter of seeing things from another person’s perspective. If you notice something that you can do to make their situation easier, then do it. And yes, it may require that you go a little bit out of your way, but how hard is it to hold the door open for someone or stop your car to let someone cross the street? Kind deeds have a tendency to repay themselves many times over. It may not happen right away, but there is still a sense of satisfaction that comes from doing the right thing.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">3.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Follow the Golden Rule</span></strong>. Simply stated, treat others the way you would like to be treated. The beautiful thing about this is how straight forward it is. Think how different everything would be if everyone followed this simple principle. There would be no crime, no war, and no murder. Granted, we cannot control the actions of other people, but we can control how we behave. When you treat others with this level of respect, they will naturally view you as likable?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"></strong>4.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Work with others</span></strong>. There are plenty of opportunities to show cooperation and teamwork in all areas of life. Whether you are in a crowded store or heavy traffic, cooperation will make the experience more manageable. If you are driving a bit slower than some, move to the slow lane and allow others to pass. If you are grocery shopping, don’t leave your cart in the middle of the isle. By being aware of those around you and showing consideration you will be more likable</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">5. <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Smile often</strong></span>. Never underestimate the power of a smile. The effect is two-fold. It tends to elevate your mood and it lifts the spirits of those you smile at. If you don’t believe me, try this little experiment. For an entire day, before you say a word to anyone, smile first. If you’re walking past them, smile and say hello. Notice their reaction. Most will smile back and when they do, you will feel even better. When you look at other people, who do you view as more likable? Isn’t it true that a person with a smile on their face wins every time?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">6.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Say I’m sorry</span></strong>. This is one of the first lessons we learn in life, yet some of us quickly forget it as we get older. The principle is very simple. If you wrong someone, or if you make a mistake, or if you hurt another person (intentionally or unintentionally), apologize for it. Don’t waste your time trying to assign blame. Be the first one to say I’m sorry and you will instantly be more likable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">7.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Be honest</span></strong>. Tell the truth, even when it doesn’t seem to be in your best interest to do so. There is a lot to be said for the person who can admit they’re wrong (see above) and come clean with their mistake. It should also be noted that telling a lie doesn’t fix anything. The problem or issue is still there, under the blanket of the lie, and it will stay there until the truth comes out. Honesty is a reflection of one’s self-dignity and integrity. By being honest and tactful, other honest people will find you more likable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">8.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Listen</span></strong>.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> </strong>Although it is typically our first instinct to talk first, listening can actually be an advantage. A primary benefit of listening is the amount that can be learned. If we spend most of our time talking then how can we learn anything? One of the best ways to be viewed as more likable is to be a good listener. It’s not always easy, but listening tells others that you are genuinely interested in them as a person, and who doesn’t like that?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">9.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Be complimentary</span></strong>.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> </strong>Have you ever received an unexpected compliment? How did that make you feel? Everyone likes to be noticed in a good way. In a world that tends to be overly critical, a sincere compliment can be very encouraging. Notice I said a <b><i>sincere</i></b> compliment. If our compliments aren’t sincere they could be viewed as patronizing, so when you compliment make sure that you are being truthful. This is guaranteed to make you more likable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">10.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> <span style="color: #510005; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Laugh</span></strong>. Everyone likes to laugh.<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> </strong>Laughing releases endorphins that make you feel happy and relaxed. Laughing is both therapeutic and contagious. When you laugh, you will also be encouraging laughter from others. When you contribute to the happiness of others, they can’t help liking you. So never underestimate the value in laughter.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">It really is simple to be more likable</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">All of these ideas are simple and universally acknowledged. Sadly, many of them seem to have been forgotten in today’s world. At times, the pressures or stress in our lives may cause us to show less consideration or patience for other people. The truth is that every one of these simple ideas can make a significant contribution to the quality of our life and the lives of others. Along with making us more likable, they actually reduce stress and make life more enjoyable.</span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #444444;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone, Skype and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. Contact Roland at<span class="skype_pnh_container" dir="ltr" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: none !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; color: rgb(73, 83, 90) !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; 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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Have you ever felt that you are so busy trying to keep up with your life that you just can’t get anything done?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Do you find yourself constantly putting things off because you just don’t have enough time to do it all?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Have you experienced the lack of progress that comes from never getting to the things that would make a real difference in your life?</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Let the 80-20 rule work for you</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There is a general principle that many business people are aware of called the Pareto Principle or 80-20 Rule. The premise is that you get 80% of your results from 20% of your efforts. This principle seems to apply to just about every area of life. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">In sales, it’s the top 20% of your customers that create 80% of your income. In relationships, it’s the first 20% of the time you spend with a person that reveals 80% of their personality.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">In the case of personal development, you will get the biggest gains in the beginning – 80% of your results will come from the first 20% of your effort.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Put more focus where it will have the biggest impact</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What is the real difference between those whose performance is average and those who excel? The ones who excel are those who focus more of their time and effort <b><i>developing </i></b>the abilities that have the greatest impact on their life.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">That’s why we expect professionals to be more accomplished. And as it turns out, 80% of business is done by the best 20% in any given field.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The best 20% of all doctors will make 80% of all the money paid to doctors. The best 20% of all the books published account for 80% of all book sales. The most popular 20% of all musicians get 80% of the money spent on concert tickets and CD sales.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So here’s the application – If you want to get the best results from your efforts in life, you need to focus your time accordingly. Why not structure your life so you can take advantage of the 80-20 rule?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why are some couples happier than others? Obviously, there are a variety of factors that come into play here, but the bottom line is this. The people involved in those relationships have put forth the effort to develop their communication skills and their efforts have paid off.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Those with the best relationship skills tend to have the best relationships. It is very likely that if you were to calculate the percentages, the 80-20 Rule would apply.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Develop the needed skills</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For the most part, we all understand that the better we are at what we do, the greater the results we will get from our efforts. But, here’s another important point that people tend to overlook. When you’re really good at what you do, you can do much less and still get the same results!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Now I need to ask, why would you want to spend 40 hours a week earning a living if you could generate the same income in just 5 hours? Why spend months trying to work through a relationship problem if you can develop the skills to do it in a day?</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Multiply you results and get more free time</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Would you rather spend your life struggling for every inch of progress or put your time and energy where it can do the most good? We all have “other things” we would like to do if we just had the time and money.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why not take the time to figure out which areas of your life really matter and which ones are just consuming your valuable time. Once you clearly understand the difference, learn the life skills that will allow you to leverage the 80-20 rule.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Life is full of unnecessary busy work and distractions. How much better would your life be if you could spend most of your time and energy doing the things that really matter to you?</span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #444444;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone, Skype and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. 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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">With so much information and advice bombarding you from every conceivable source, how can a budding entrepreneur distinguish between real opportunities and mere busy work? Answering this one question correctly can literally mean the difference between massive success and unknown obscurity.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you try to have a big presence on all the social media sites, comment on all the top blogs in your niche, listen to all the free training from every new launch, do all of your own SEO, design work, and content creation, how busy will you be? As an entrepreneur, time is your most valuable resource, and like everyone else, you only have so much of it.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Will doing all these things really grow your business?</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Each of the things I mentioned can add to your overall growth when done correctly, but there is a downside. If you spend too much time focused on those activities, you won’t have enough left over to do the things that really matter. Instead, you will be working twelve hours a day and not making any money.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here’s where things get a little tricky. You probably do need to do some of these time consuming tasks unless you are in a position to outsource them. So, how can you fit everything in and still have time for a life?</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Choices need to be made, that’s how!</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you try to do everything you won’t accomplish anything worthwhile. You’ll be incredibly busy, but you won’t have much to show for it and eventually you’ll burn out. Correct me if I am wrong, but I am reasonably sure that your reasons for wanting to be an entrepreneur didn’t include working twelve hours a day, seven days a week, and making little or no money. And yet, that is exactly the experience many are having by following all the popular trends.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Instead of focusing on the latest flash, I prefer a more pragmatic approach. In every area of life there are always simple, profound truths that will outperform flash over the long run. Granted, when it comes to building a successful business these simple truths may not seem very glamorous compared to the lure of the latest <em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">get rich with the click of a button</em> product, but they work and that’s what I care about.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Simplicity is an entrepreneur’s best friend</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Complicated strategies can be intellectually appealing because they usually have a big wow factor, but I prefer to go with simple whenever possible. That’s what I have for you today, 3 simple, common sense solution for making the most of your time and effort while trying to grow your business.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">1. Do more of what works.</strong></span> For entrepreneurs and small business owners, all tasks are not created equal. Some activities make a direct or indirect contribution to your income, others are much less important with little or no influence to your bottom line. You need to distinguish between the two and prioritize you time and energy accordingly.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I’m not saying you can completely ignore everything that doesn’t grow your income. What I am saying is that the bulk of your time needs to be spent on things that you know are contributing to the growth of your business. Instead of chasing every new moneymaking scheme that comes along, identify what is already working for you and find a way to take it to the next level. The 80-20 rule works well for this.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">2. Stop trying to be all things to all people.</strong></span> Thanks to the internet you may have a worldwide audience, but the whole world is not your niche. You need to figure out who your product or service resonates with and focus on them. It is much more effective (and profitable) to fine tune your message for a specific crowd rather than trying to appeal to everyone.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The world is a big place made up of thousands of specialized niches large and small. You only need a small tribe of loyal customers to be a successful entrepreneur. Avoid the temptation of the broad market because it will dilute the effectiveness of everything you do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">3.</strong> <strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Personalize your approach.</strong></span> Would you rather do business with the impersonal corporate world or with a real person who is personally involved? Personal branding can transform an unknown entrepreneur into a wildly successful business person.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We all prefer to do business with those we view as authorities and those we trust. Personal branding makes it possible for an entrepreneur to fill both these criteria. When your audience feels connected with you in a deeply motivating way, they will be eager to do business with you.</span></div>
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<strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: small;">Narrow your focus to grow your business</span></strong></h3>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Crafting a business breakthrough strategy for my business coaching clients often requires a great deal of creative innovation. But before we move to that stage, we always cover the tried and true fundamental growth strategies first. These are the kind of strategies that should form the foundation of your entrepreneurial efforts.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">If you do more of what works and less of what doesn’t, your business will grow. If you focus your efforts and attention on those who already need what you have to offer, your customer base will expand and so will your income. If you are transparent and sincere with your audience in a way that makes them feel connected to you and your message, they will carry you to success.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Are you building your dream on proven growth strategies?<br style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;" />Have you allowed busy work to get in the way of success?</span></em></strong></span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Roland N. Gilbert</span></span></span></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone, Skype and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. Contact Roland at<span class="skype_pnh_container" dir="ltr" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: none !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; 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background-color: transparent !important; background-image: none !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Click to make a low cost call with Skype"><span class="skype_pnh_textarea_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_text_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_container" dir="ltr" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" tabindex="-1"> <span class="skype_pnh_highlighting_inactive_common" dir="ltr" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Click to make a low cost call with Skype"><span class="skype_pnh_left_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 6px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Skype actions"> </span><span class="skype_pnh_dropart_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -11px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; 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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When you make decisions, what do you base them on? Have you ever found yourself searching for information and never finding the answers you really need? How do the questions you ask affect the</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">decisions you make</span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sometimes it seems like the moment you go looking for meaningful answers to important questions so you can make a wise decision, things get confusing. Either there’s not enough information available, or there are so many opinions that you don’t know who to believe.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Making decisions is a big part of life, and learning to ask the right questions is among the top ten life skills we should learn. We base most of our decisions in life on the answers we receive. This is because thinking people like to make informed choices. We like to weigh the information we gather so we can choose the best option.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When we look around, it’s pretty obvious that not everyone bothers with this process. In fact, how many times have you been amazed by other peoples decisions? Have you ever said: “I don’t get it, what were they thinking”? Well, we all have our own criteria, and making wise decisions is a personal responsibility.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The point is, without the right information we simply can’t make wise decisions. And if we are not asking the right questions we won’t have the information we need.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There are certain areas in life where getting truly helpful information can pose a real challenge. As a result, making good decisions in these areas can be extremely difficult. For example, how about finding reliable diet information. How many diets are there? How different are they from each other? How are you supposed to decide which one is best for you? This kind of confusion really impedes the decision making process.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">How about exercise? Should you focus on cardiovascular or muscle building exercises? How many times a week? How long should you workout, or how far should you run? Can too much be harmful? Which is better, high-intensity or low intensity? You see what I mean; too many opinions only create more confusion.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">These are just two areas where our decision making process can feel challenged. In this age of information overload, we can have a similar experience in almost any endeavor. This only emphasizes the need to hone our decision making skills.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You might feel that something as important as making wise decisions should have been addressed in school. Well, it wasn’t and questioning that would just be an exercise in futility. Even if you received your MBA online and had all the information on the internet at your finger tips, making wise decisions still comes with knowing where to look for answers. Like so many other important life skills, it’s up to each of us to learn the art of making wise decisions and asking skillful questions.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Because the questions we ask have such a strong influence on the decisions we make, it’s an area that deserves some special attention. Over the years I have discovered several helpful guidelines for cutting through the confusion when asking questions and I’d like to share a few of them with you. Hopefully you will find them useful.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">1) <span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Don’t ask circular questions</strong>.</span> Which came first, the chicken or the egg? That’s a question that will just lead you around in circles. Even if you could answer it, the answer has no relevance. It’s a good example of a worthless question. To find meaningful answers you need to ask meaningful questions that are 100% relevant.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">2) <span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Identify your objective</strong>.</span> The first thing you need to decide when looking for answers is what your true objective really is. What do you actually want to know? If we don’t know exactly what we’re trying to accomplish, things can get confusing really fast. So spend some time getting a clear idea of what your objective is before you go any further.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">3) <span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Scan the field</strong>.</span> If you quickly survey all the information available under a broad topic, certain things will stand out. Make a list of the ones that seem to apply to your objective. If you’re into online research, one of the ways to do this is with the public Google search. You can type in a broad topic, and they will usually give you a list of related subtopics.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">4) <span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Reevaluate your objective</strong>.</span> Now that you know what’s out there try to clarify your objective. This is really just a process of elimination. Narrow your list to things that seem to have specific application to your clearly defined objective. This part of the process will add even more clarity to your objective.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">5) <span style="color: #a47b32; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">Choose reliable sources</strong>.</span> When you’re looking for answers to important questions the reliability of your source should be a primary concern. This is especially true when you’re dealing with topics that are partially reliant on someone’s discernment, experience, and opinion. Try to identify sources that you feel you can trust. If you’re looking for marriage advice, don’t ask someone who’s been divorced several times.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">There is only so much information gathering you can do, and then it’s time to make a decision. At some point you need to make application of the answers you have formulated. In the long run, only experience will make it clear how good your decisions really are.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Sometimes the answers we get are like shining beacons that guide us to making excellent decisions. Other times they are like guard rails that keep us from running off the road of our intended path. Either way, the value of the answers we find will be in direct proportion to our ability to ask the right questions from the most reliable sources.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The quality of your life today is a reflection of the decisions you have already made. The quality of your life tomorrow will depend on the decisions you make today. That means you have an amazing amount of control over your future. How will you decide to use it?</span></div>
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list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Click to make a low cost call with Skype"><span class="skype_pnh_textarea_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_text_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_container" dir="ltr" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" tabindex="-1"> <span class="skype_pnh_highlighting_inactive_common" dir="ltr" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Click to make a low cost call with Skype"><span class="skype_pnh_left_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 6px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Skype actions"> </span><span class="skype_pnh_dropart_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -11px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 27px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Skype actions"><span class="skype_pnh_dropart_flag_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/flags.gif) !important; background-position: -5849px 1px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; 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page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 18px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"> </span> </span><span class="skype_pnh_textarea_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; 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table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_text_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; 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word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;">800-974-3692</span></span><span class="skype_pnh_right_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -62px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; 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<br /></div>Roland N. Gilberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05671851679221374278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1791278686114332132.post-78467355016844992552012-04-09T13:09:00.000-07:002012-04-09T13:10:23.731-07:0020 Steps to Happier Relationships NOW!<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It is inevitable that partners are going to have different opinions, and everyone has days where their emotions can get the better of them. The problem is not that we have conflicts with our partner, the problem lies in the <b><i>way</i></b> we handle the situation. When our egos get in the way, our mind becomes clouded and we end up making mountains out of mole hills.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Some of us use these conflicts as an opportunity to answer: Is my relationship stronger than the problem?<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> </em>They use the situation as a way to measure the relationship stability. They fail to see that this question itself causes conflict, since it forces comparison. Instead, a more effective question to ask is: Are we mature enough as people to resolve the conflict with consideration, awareness and grace?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The following are some pointers that have proven to be effective in my relationships:</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">1. Awareness</strong></span> – Bringing awareness into the situation. Become the observer of your thoughts, your emotions, your needs, and your ego. Ask yourself,</span></div>
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<li style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">What is it I want at this moment?</span></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Is what I want from my heart or filtered by my ego?</span></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Will getting what I want help me become a better person?</span></li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Will getting what I want bring happiness and fulfillment to me and those around me?</span></li>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">2. Express, Don’t Suppress </strong></span>- Speak candidly and freely. Yes, the truth can hurt, but if you take responsibility for your words and speak with respect for the other person, the honestly and sincerity from your message will shine through. The other person will deeply appreciate you for it. Honesty not only releases your mental load, but also helps mutual understanding.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">3. Recognize the "Crying Baby"</strong></span> – By bringing awareness into a situation, we will get better at recognizing when our partner is in the crying baby<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> </em>state. When they are in a baby state, it is highly beneficial if we remain calm. Don’t take what they say personally during this state, they don’t mean it.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">4. How to Calm the Baby </strong></span>- The crying baby<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"> </em>state is a primal state. We become irrational and unreasonable. We feel like we’re a little kid again crying for attention. With this in mind, what can our partner do to calm us when we ourselves are in a baby state? Sit down with your partner ahead of time to openly discuss what would make them feel better when they are this baby state? For example, to calm the baby in me, I love to be spoken to in a low, calming voice. What will calm the baby in you?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">5. Pattern Interrupt</strong></span> – When we repeatedly do something, it becomes a habit. Instead of giving in to a comfortable action that doesn’t give you the result you want, interrupt that pattern by doing something (shockingly) unrelated or random. When you feel yourself going down a negative spiral, get up and do 10 jumping jacks with exaggerated movements, make funny faces, do a happy dance around the living room. This will help to bounce you out of that state of mind.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">6. “Look into my Eyes”</strong></span> – If you see that your partner is in an irrational baby state or is upset, ask them to look into your eyes, even for just 30 seconds. When they are looking at your eyes, look back into their eyes and imagine passing an infinite amount of love towards them. Through their eyes, look for their soul. You may be upset too, just surrender to the moment, take some deep breaths, and focus only on their eyes and how beautiful they are.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">7. Breathing</strong></span> – Close your eyes and focus on your breath. Take a few deep breaths and continue to breathe normally. Continue to do this for at least 5-10 minutes. Draw your focus into your lungs expanding and contracting. Feel the energy the air brings. As you change your focus, you will also change your mindset.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">8. Ask yourself: “Am I arguing so that I could win the battle?”</strong></span> – If the answer is yes, ask yourself whether winning this battle will make a difference in your life in 40 years? How about tomorrow?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">9. Ask yourself: “What is it about myself that I don’t like?”</strong></span> – Oftentimes, the arguments we get into are simply an extension of ourselves, though we may not realize it until we reflect at a later time. When we find ourselves jumping quickly into judging other people, we are really projecting what we dislike about ourselves on to that person. Observing our thoughts and behaviors toward others can expose our own insecurities on the subject matter.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">10. Try on Different Shoes </strong></span>- Imagine yourself in your partner’s shoes. To the best of your ability, feel the pain the other person is experiencing. How does it feel? What is your new perspective like? For a few seconds, pretend that “Me” does not exist, and that you are now the other person. Experience their words and feelings as if your own. This simple exercise helps to give you compassion and consideration towards another’s point of view.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">11. “How it made me feel.” </strong></span>- When communicating your points of view, always speak in terms of how something made you feel. Example, “When I didn’t hear from you, it made me feel that I was not important.”. Expressing how something made us feel instead of what we think they did wrong, reduces their instinctive need to feel defensive. When people are not on the fence about something, they are more likely to listen and be more willing to resolve an issue.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">12. Step Out, Cool Off</strong></span> – Go to a different room, separate yourself for a few minutes to gain perspective and clarity. Do some deep breathing exercises. Re-group yourself and bring awareness into the situation. Regain a clear grasp of what is most important to you, and reevaluate whether the “fight” is worth battling.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">13. Listen</strong></span> – Listen to the other person. Really listen to them. Give them the respect that you would like to have and give them a chance to speak without judging them. Surrender to the moment and just <em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">be</em> there. Listen to them as if you were listening to yourself. Listen to them in the way you want to be listened to.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">14. Forgive & Accept</strong></span> – Remember that inside, we are all good people. Really, we were all born innocent, loving, kind and generous. See the light in them, as you too have that light within yourself.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">15. Apologize & Explain</span> – </strong>Say I’m sorry and show that you mean it by explaining why you are sorry. Don’t be shy or let your pride get in the way. Life is short, do the right thing, instead of the thing right for your ego.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">16. Relinquish Defensiveness</strong></span> – Relinquish the need to be defensive. Listen when the other person express their feelings. Don’t treat their expression as criticism, listen with acceptance and a genuine desire to love them. This is not a power struggle, it is a conversation. Your partner’s expression of their feelings and needs has nothing to do with you. And don’t tell the other person, “Stop being so defensive”.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">17. Focus on What They Did Well</strong></span> – When we are upset with our partners, we tend to focus on what they did wrong, and qualities we believe to be character flaws. “What we focus on expands<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">.</em>” and these qualities amplify the more we give focus to them. This in turn makes us even more upset. Focus on what he or she has done right. Focus on the things we love about them. Focus on the beautiful characteristics that make them unique.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">18. Stop Point Fingers</strong></span> – Placing blame will keep the fighting alive. It is a natural progression to blame our unhappiness and un-comfort on other people or events around us. I too have done this, many, many times. At the end of the day, the only thing we have control over is ourselves, and our reactions to life situations. Can we really blame others for our unhappiness? Instead, look within ourselves and see what we can proactively do to shift our thinking and perception of the situation such that we can feel happy? As one of my favorite quotes states so wisely, <em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">“</em>We cannot control the wind, but we can direct the sail.<em style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">”</em> So true.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">19. Gratitude</strong></span> – I’ve always found it helpful when feeling moody and argumentative to focus on the blessings in my life. By shifting our focus, we shift our state of being and move away from continuing to feel bad. List out the things you are grateful for today, close your eyes and thank every part of your body for its endless function, appreciate your surroundings, write in a journal on all things you are grateful for today, or read an old journal entry of your gratitude list.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: #91532b; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><strong style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;">20. Build Strong Sense of Self Worth</strong></span> – I believe that the insecurities that rise out of relationships are the result of insecurities we have with ourselves. We have to love ourselves before we can truly accept love from others. Dedicate time to building relationships with ourselves, and in the process, we will find that our insecurities slowly disintegrate and we end up falling in love with ourselves. We do not fall in love in an ego driven way, but in the same way we experience love and connection for all beings. Go on self dates, spend quality time with yourself, appreciate you, do things that feed your soul. </span></div>
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<span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">Roland works one-on-one – via phone, Skype</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"> and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. Contact Roland at<span class="skype_pnh_container" dir="ltr" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: none !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; color: #49535a; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; font-weight: bold !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; line-height: 14px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; white-space: nowrap !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" tabindex="-1"><span class="skype_pnh_highlighting_inactive_common" dir="ltr" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: none !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Click to make a low cost call with Skype"><span class="skype_pnh_textarea_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_text_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 5px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_container" dir="ltr" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" tabindex="-1"> <span class="skype_pnh_highlighting_inactive_common" dir="ltr" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Click to make a low cost call with Skype"><span class="skype_pnh_left_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: 0px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 6px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Skype actions"> </span><span class="skype_pnh_dropart_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -11px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 27px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;" title="Skype actions"><span class="skype_pnh_dropart_flag_span" skypeaction="skype_dropdown" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/flags.gif) !important; background-position: -5849px 1px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 18px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"> </span> </span><span class="skype_pnh_textarea_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; 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table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: auto !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"><span class="skype_pnh_text_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -125px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; 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word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;">800-974-3692</span></span><span class="skype_pnh_right_span" style="background-attachment: scroll !important; background-color: transparent !important; background-image: url(chrome-extension://lifbcibllhkdhoafpjfnlhfpfgnpldfl/numbers_common_inactive_icon_set.gif) !important; background-position: -62px 0px !important; background-repeat: no-repeat no-repeat !important; border-bottom-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-bottom-style: none !important; border-bottom-width: 0px !important; border-collapse: separate !important; border-color: initial !important; border-image: initial !important; border-left-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-left-style: none !important; border-left-width: 0px !important; border-right-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-right-style: none !important; border-right-width: 0px !important; border-top-color: rgb(0, 0, 0) !important; border-top-style: none !important; border-top-width: 0px !important; bottom: auto !important; clear: none !important; clip: auto !important; cursor: pointer !important; direction: ltr !important; display: inline !important; float: none !important; height: 14px !important; left: auto !important; letter-spacing: 0px !important; list-style-image: none !important; list-style-position: outside !important; list-style-type: disc !important; margin-bottom: 0px !important; margin-left: 0px !important; margin-right: 0px !important; margin-top: 0px !important; overflow-x: hidden !important; overflow-y: hidden !important; padding-bottom: 0px !important; padding-left: 0px !important; padding-right: 0px !important; padding-top: 0px !important; page-break-after: auto !important; page-break-before: auto !important; page-break-inside: auto !important; position: static !important; right: auto !important; table-layout: auto !important; top: auto !important; vertical-align: baseline !important; width: 15px !important; word-spacing: normal !important; z-index: 0 !important;"> </span></span></span></span></span></span></span>or </span><a href="mailto:rgilbert@perennialgrowth.com" style="color: #3778cd; 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