Ladies have you ever been on a date that was so bad that you wanted to put him on Facebook and warn other women not to date him? We have all been on bad dates from time to time, and I have had my share too! Men, listen up, here are 5 bad 1st date ideas that you should avoid at all cost! If not, you will be alone for a very long time.
1. Taking a lady to a business meeting!!
Work and Play are meant to be separate. She is trying to get to know you not your title or company. Try taking her to a happy hour or a park so you can really talk to her and find out her interests.
Save this for the 8th date or when you have her as your “girlfriend” or “wife”.
2. Taking a lady to your place!!
She could be crazy and some women like to be nosy and go through your stuff. What will you do if something goes missing or she decides to leave little things (shampoo, panties, or a razor) behind?
Save this for the 4th date when you know her and her intentions.
3. Bar Hopping!!
She wants to talk to you not her glass at throughout the night. Alcohol is great if you want to cut to the chase but it does not make you look sexy on a first date. Drink 2-3 glass of wine or hard liquor and STOP!!! So you can focus your attention on your date not what bar you are going to.
Save this for the long term dating or friends with benefits phase.
4.
I love to eat food and I know it is a recession but when you take a lady to McDonalds, it leaves a sour taste in her mouth. McDonalds is great for cheap eating and a quick meeting with friends. But for a first date, it is a major turn-off. Try taking her to a restaurant and if you need to bring a coupon, let your waiter know in advance. Or just wait until pay day, and look at your budget before taking a lady out on a date.
Save this for when you are both in love or when you are both really, really drunk.
5. Strip Clubs
This is a funny way to start off a relationship by taking a lady to see some other lady’s parts. The bad music mixed with the smell of funk and smoke may create a romantic setting for some ladies like Superhead. But ladies do not want to be in a shady environment where she cannot talk or look at you because you are drooling over the girl with the big booty. Strip clubs are fantasy lands that most ladies do not want to go to.
Save this for when you are both sexually adventurous or when you both are a serious couple.
This was not meant to be offensive but I am sure some ladies have experienced these bad dates at some point in their lives. I do not want men to believe that it is fine to give ladies a poor first impression of themselves. Men need to learn how to take a lady out and how to talk to a lady because a lady has more class than a girl.
Ladies need to be treated with respect and kindness. Ladies should demand that respect by not going on these strange and depressing dates. Communicate with the date before you go out and let them know what your interests are. Do not let the man get away with taking you on a horrible date. Tell him how it made you feel and how you will handle the dating situation with him in the future.
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Seddi
Sedinam "Seddi" Kakrada is a Broadcast Journalism grad student at UNLV with a B.A. in Communication. Seddi has combined her two favorite topics, sex & communication and is striving to become the first African-American "Dr. Ruth".Seddi hails from Annapolis, MD, and looks forward to answering your questions and helping you succeed!
