The Art of Self-Pleasure

Sex does not happen all the time for a lot of couples and singles. There are many reasons for this issue from being long distance to not performing well.  We are humans and we need to “release” the stress that we have during the day. If sex is not a regular routine for you, why don’t you try the next best thing…masturbation? Masturbation sounds like an “ugly” word but it is not. It can be a healthy process that can help improve a person’s immune system and ease depression. According to YourTango.com, between 45 and 80 percent of women have tried masturbation and they enjoyed it. They did not die or go blind from this enjoyable past time. 

Here are some tips to help get you going.

Turn Down the Lights

Having lights on when you can become nervous or feel odd when you want to explore your body. When the lights are off, you will get a chance to tune into your other senses like smell, touch and hearing. You will feel more at ease when you are doing your solo session.

Relax

Take Deep Breaths and close your eyes. Enjoy your sheets. Explore your hot spots and sensual sides of your body. Turn off your phones, televisions and computers. Give yourself that “sexy” time to enjoy all aspects of you.

Make sure you have soft sheets

Cotton sheets are nice in the summer because they can help cool your body as you start your fun. Silk sheets are nice for the luxurious feeling of someone being in the bed with you.

Turn on some cool air to set the mood

Nothing is worse than being sweaty and uncomfortable in your own bed. So put on a fan or some air conditioning to help you relax.

Envision your deepest sexual fantasy or wish

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Let your mind wander into the depths of sexual erotica. Enjoy the entertainment that your mind has to offer because the brain is the biggest sexual organ you have.

Use Ice

Ice is good to use if you are about to explode because it will give you an intense sensation. Ice can also help to get you going again. Keep the ice close by, so you will not ruin the moment.

Use your fingers (If you are from the old school)

The classic toy…your fingers, they never seem to let a lady down. You can use as many as you want and do not have to use batteries. I suggest putting some lube on them to make the session last longer. Ice on your fingers is helpful as well.

Use a fun toy (plastic, glass, and vibrator)

There are so many options when it comes to shopping for sex toys. From the dildos to the bullet vibrator to the rubber duckie, when you go to get one, keep in mind what kind of orgasm you want to have. Remember if you want a easy to use toy or something that is more complex.  Whatever toy you decide to use, make sure you enjoy all the features on the toy.

Masturbation should be a fun activity that lets you forget about your stresses. Enjoy pleasuring yourself because it is better for your health and mental state of mind. These little tips will help you have a strong and longer orgasm and help tighten your pelvic muscles. Enjoy your self love and become in tuned with your body. 

 If you have any tips or stories about how you get your solo sessions started. Let me know. 

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Seddi

Sedinam "Seddi" Kakrada is a Broadcast Journalism grad student at UNLV with a B.A. in Communication. Seddi has combined her two favorite topics, sex & communication and is striving to become the first African-American "Dr. Ruth".Seddi hails from Annapolis, MD, and looks forward to answering your questions and helping you succeed!