Are Men Really Ok with Lesbian Cheating?

The topic of cheating is intriguing to me and it has not been resolved or examine closely in the scholarly world. I would like to continue the discussion and examine the “taboo” of lesbian cheating. It is where a woman is in a relationship with a man and cheats on him with a woman. Some men may view cheating as a problem no matter who is sleeping with whom. Other men would be happy with their significant other having a sexual relationship with another woman. If my man had a sexual relationship with another man, I might leave the relationship very quickly. I am not one to judge people’s decisions when it comes to cheating but YourTango.com found a intriguing study on the topic.

A new study from the University of Texas at Austin discovered that men are more twice as likely to stay with their girlfriend or wife after they cheated on them with another woman. While women are less likely to continue a relationship if a man cheated on them with another man. The study surveyed 700 college students, asking them to imagine a committed relationship with someone they have been dating for three months. Then, they were asked to respond to different scenarios of their partner cheating on them. (Some of the scenarios included woman with man, woman with woman, man with woman, man with man and woman with multiple men, woman with multiple women, and men with multiple men and men with multiple women).

Men were 50 percent likely to stay with a woman after she cheated with another woman. Only 22 percent were likely to stay with a partner who cheated with a man. On the other hand, 28 percent of ladies would continue the relationship if a man cheated on them with a woman. Only 21 percent of women would stay with their man if he had sexual relations with another man. The study suggested that men are threatened by indiscretions that come in the way of their paternity of offspring. The lead author of the study, Jamie C. Confer stated, “A robust jealousy mechanism is activated in men and women by different types of cues, those that threaten paternity in men and those that threaten abandonment in women.”

While many people may not agree with the findings in this study, the authors claim that men view a homosexual affair as an “opportunity to mate with more than one woman at the same time. “ The lesbian cheating helps to satisfy the man’s desire to be with many partners including their girlfriend or wife. No matter what side you are on in this discussion, men like a lot of women and some women like to be with both men and women. Maybe people should try open marriages and relationships especially since the divorce rate is high and everyone has a naughty fantasy that they are afraid to try in the real world.

I understand how women feel about their man cheating on them with another man. I would like to know how men feel about lesbian cheating. Cheating is a dangerous game but is it really ok for women to cheat on their man with another woman. So tell me how you feel about your partner cheating on you with another woman. Does your woman cheating on you with another man really threaten your feelings about paternity and masculinity?

Let me know your thoughts below

Seddi

Sedinam "Seddi" Kakrada is a Broadcast Journalism grad student at UNLV with a B.A. in Communication. Seddi has combined her two favorite topics, sex & communication and is striving to become the first African-American "Dr. Ruth".Seddi hails from Annapolis, MD, and looks forward to answering your questions and helping you succeed!