It is hard enough dealing with these types in general. It will be a more uncomfortable and tougher task, particularly if you are surrounded with these personalities at your workplace.
Overtime, these negative people can really bring you down and make your workplace a living hell!
However, sometimes it's impossible for you to avoid negative personalities at your work and you may be forced to deal with them on a regular basis.
So, what will you do to reduce their impact on your life? Here are few ways that can help you in dealing with negative people in your life, particularly at your workplace.
1. How to deal with negative people in response to rude remarks?
When you say positive things to negative people, it will generally have one of two affects on them.
1. It will piss them the hell off! Negative people simply HATE positive minded people. Period! They know somewhere deep down that you are right and they are wrong, but pride, fear of change and years of being the way that they are prevents them from acknowledging the positive.
2. It will give them some food for thought. When a person says it can't be done, then they are right, it can't...for them! If you reply with something like, "Well you've got 3 choices in life, give up, give in, or give it all you got!" What can they say? Most negative people are VERY vocal about their negativity because they are looking for supporters. If you respond with a dynamic positive-minded solution, you make them look ridiculous for keeping that attitude!
If they "take the bait" and respond with something like, "well I've given it all I have and nothing is changing" they are unconsciously opening the door for help. You can then respond with a, "well lets' sit down and see what we can come up with!" Positive responses make them at least think about what you said. Try to make them act positively because positive thinking will result into positive aspects only.
Use words that sound positive such as excellent, fantastic and amazing. If you sound positive, happy and excited, it will rub positivity on negative people and there is a chance that they will change their negative attitude.
2. Don’t give them advice
Some times, your co-workers just want to complain their problems to a friendly listening ear.
It doesn’t mean they need your advice or assistance. Listen, but set your limits so that your co-worker doesn’t overstay or over talk with you.
3. Limit your time with them
Avoid spending a lot of time with a negative co-worker because long-term conversations with negative people sap your energy and positive outlook If you are forced, through your role in company, to work with negative people, try to set your limits.
Don’t involve yourself into any negative discussion. Tell to your negative co-worker that you prefer to take your job in more positive way. Don’t provide any sympathetic audience for their negative attitude.
4. Talk something positive about them
Not every day, but at least sometimes, say something positive. When you are involved in work with them, try to tell something positive about them. Gradually, this small help from your side will start to help them to think positively and overtime the can develop positive thoughts in their mind. This worked extremely well with a former co-worker of mine. I had never met a man with so much negativity built up that most everyone on the job tried to avoid him, especially in after-work activities. This of course just fed into his continual negativity and he used it like a shield on some days and a club on others. I started to point out his better qualities in a subtle, non-threatening, and NON-SUBMISSIVE manner. He was leery at first, but over the course of several months you could see his whole attitude change like flipping through a picture book and watching the characters dance.
5. Be enthusiastic and concentrate on your own energy
Try to influence your positivity on them but don’t act to their negative thoughts or words. If you can be higher in your energy, it will help you to stay positive always, even if you are surrounded with negative people.
Remember these basic strategies will help you in getting to know how to deal with negative people at your workplace and also in being successful with more warmth and positivity.
Do you deal with negativity at your place of work?
How do you currently deal with negative people around you?
Are YOU the person this article is talking about?
Think. Grow. Live!Roland N. Gilbert
Roland works one-on-one – via phone and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance. Contact Roland at 800-974-3692 or rgilbert@perennialgrowth.com to determine if coaching is right for you.
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