Simple answer: DON'T!
Our happiness is each of our own responsibility. Not only internal factors but external factors work to either increase or decrease our happiness quotient (%). The way we allow ourselves to be treated affects our ability to be happy. And make no mistake about it, how people continually treat you is your choice!
When it's loved ones or close friends that are treating you badly these relationships are called "toxic". No matter how much they profess their "love" for you, their actions always seem to hurt you or put you in a bad light. When you are not around they degrade you to family and friends. When upset they can become extremely vengeful and/or petty. They blame you, drain you and shame you, and then discount everything you say in a need to be right! What ever the behavior is, if it is hurting you or causing pain, then it's time to take a good look at the relationship!
Now everyone will treat everyone badly from time to time, we're only human. Be we only accept bad behavior when it's complimented with a change in both attitude AND behavior... because it should only be accepted once! Anything after that, and you are training people on how to treat you.
Love is an action word and if the word itself is not followed up with appropriate action then all you have is another 4-letter word!
Think. Grow. Live!
Roland N. Gilbert
Roland works one-on-one – via phone and face-to-face – and with MasterMind Groups. Through Couples Coaching Roland helps clients communicate better, find the love they want, and create relationships of significance.
Contact Roland at 800-974-3692 or rgilbert@perennialgrowth.com to determine if coaching is right for you. www.perennialgrowth.com
